He has been living with us and now he wants to move back with his mother, I feel his decision is based on that he can basically do what he wants with his mother, should we continue to let him pick and choose who he wants to be with or should we be firm about the decision he made 12 months age?
2006-12-29 14:44:33 · 7 answers · asked by jucielucy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you have to stand firm with him or he will never respect you. tell him that once and for all he will be making a permanent decision on who he will end up with because you WILL NOT be played with or jerked around by him. he either stays with you and thats final or he goes to mum and thats the end of it. you are people not game pieces to be played with and he needs to understand that. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-29 14:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on u,
I'm 16 years old and i move in with my step-dad and my mom when i was 12.
i think u should gets known better than just what u think, ask him why. If u love him and wants him to stay, then u may need to find a person that is close to him other than his mom. like his grandma or uncle. for me, i didn't get along with my mom for the first couple month because we haven't seen eachother for 6 years. but now, everythings worked out fine. it just takes more time to get used to it. i talk to my grandma a lot and she always make me feel better, and look things up. 12 month isn't a short time, lack of friends and activity can also be a problem. try to have more family activities together, like go out for a dinner together or watch a movie as a family in ur basement where no other people will interrupt.
buy some big birthday gifts for him to show u love him.
hope this will help, otherwise it all depends on u
2006-12-29 22:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by shawn s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a hard one - if you let him pick and choose then he will play both sides, and whoever gives him the most stuff and has the laxest rules will 'win' him for awhile. On the other hand, he is going to do whatever he wants as a teen anyway... Have you discussed it with your son's mother? Maybe you can tell him he can move back with his mom at the end of the school year, but he has to stay with her till the end of the next school year so he isn't changing schools in midyear.
2006-12-29 22:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's review this situation. So your step-son wants to
bring his mom (you must be British) and himself back into
YOUR HOUSE and live with you and her ex-husband. What's
going on here? Who is going to be paying the bills? And
where will "mum" be sleeping? Who will lay down the rules
for the (spoilt) kid? This kid is only 12 and he wants all you
adults to go along with his little mental remedy? He can't have
it both ways. What did the judge say in the order? It's a lose/
lose situation.
2006-12-29 22:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U and your partner need to be firm and tell him to go and have a long hard think about it cause once youve made your desicion that is where u stay.
2006-12-30 00:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want your step-son to be unhappy. Respect his wishes and supervise his life even if he lives with you or not. Leave plenty of room for open communication. Let your step-son understand what is expected of him and hold him accountable for his behavior. Have a family meeting with his parents. Support your husband. Wish you luck.
2006-12-29 22:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Delicious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be firm
he prolly is mad rite now at being repremanded for sumthin
he needs parents who give him dicipline and he needs most of all stability
and stayin with 1 guardian perminately is how u accomplish this
2006-12-29 22:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by leandrasmiles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋