how do u know if he's the right one?

Answer 1

you just do.

Answer 2

Statistics show that the longest lasting marriages had engagement periods of 12 to 18 months. By that time you should have a pretty good idea if he's Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now. Also, ALWAYS seek pre-marriage counseling... it's just a very good idea (unless you're afraid of the truth...) And lastly, before being married, you should agree completely on these four things. 1. religion 2. money (fights over, the number one cause of marital dischord) 3. children (how many? and how soon?) and last, but not least 4. in-laws (do you get along? Really, now.)

Answer 3

Avoiding Four Common Relationship Problems
Question of the Week: I have been on the dating scene for what feels like my entire life (I'm a 30 year old who has never been married). I’ve had many girlfriends, some serious, and some not so serious. Every time I believe that I’ve found “the one,” the same old relationship issues seem to pop up, and we end up breaking up. I was wondering what the most common relationship problems are and the best ways to get past them?

Relationships are the spice of life, but the spice of relationships is also bound to leave an unpleasant taste in your mouth once in awhile. Most everyone will experience a failed relationship before meeting the love of their life, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as they’re able to learn from it rather than falling into the same patterns again and again. Find out if you’re guilty of any of these common relationship problems.

Emotionally-Unhealthy Individuals
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: To optimize the success of a happy and healthy relationship, each partner needs to be at their most complete as an individual. This means each person needs to be emotionally mature and available, have a strong sense of self and know what it is that each person wants from the other. An emotionally-unhealthy individual will look at a relationship as a way to solve their own problems or as the thing in life that will make them feel complete. An emotionally-unhealthy individual may be too dependant because they’re too afraid to be alone and may settle for someone they know won’t make a good partner.

Moving Too Fast
In a world where instant gratification dominates, relationships often fail because of this exact reason – too many couples are in a rush to “make it work,” ignoring any waving red flags. You end up putting too much faith in a relationship because you want to be in one so bad and you believe a relationship will fix all of your loneliness or feelings of being incomplete. Excitement about a new relationship is one thing, but forgetting that a relationship takes a lot of time to really grow is another. There is no specific “stage” you should be in at a pre-determined time. It all depends on the couple.

Unrealistic Expectations
Romantic fantasies, unhealthy individuals and putting too much hope into an already struggling relationship all describe this general common relationship problem theme – having unrealistic expectations. Expecting that you can change any bad behaviors your partner has is unrealistic. Expecting your partner to feel the same way about everything is unrealistic. When your expectations don’t come to fruition, you place blame on the other for something that you should probably blame yourself for. The only expectations you should have about a relationship is that you will be treated as well as you treat the other person and that you will gain friendship, love, respect and support from a healthy relationship. Expect to plan for the dynamics of a relationship changing over time due to human nature and external factors, but expect that love will survive if you work at it.

Money
Everyone has a different style of dealing with money. Some of you are frugal Franks while others are spendthrifts Susies. Money can be a huge root of contention in a relationship, especially in a marriage when the money is mutually shared. Different money styles aren’t necessarily something that will hurt a relationship, but the lack of compromise or deception with money can.

Money also can represent a power struggle in a relationship and one of the partners may feel like their independence is being compromised. Before opening a joint bank account or getting married, it is essential that any money differences, issues and fears are discussed, and a compromise and budget or short-term and long-term goals are agreed upon. However, what is most essential is to respect what lines have been drawn, and not to use money as a way to exert control or power over the other.

An important element of any happy and healthy relationship is individual health. The body-mind connection is so powerful, that by taking care of your body you will help empower your mind and enrich your relationships.

Answer 4

There's absolutely no way to tell if he is the right one. People change, season change, he might be the good guy at present and be an evil guy tomorrow. Que sera sera, whatever will be will be. If he can't be the right one for you, then just be the RIGHT ONE for him.

Answer 5

You just know. Try this: look in the mirror and say "I love _______ (insert guy's name)." If you can get it out, and it doesn't make you feel creepy, then he just may be the one!!!

Keep in mind that he may not feel as strongly for you, so don't be too quick to let your guard down!!

Answer 6

You will know, don't ask how but trust me you will find out when the time is right.

Answer 7

does anyone really know? My father once (more than once) sd, "if he does something that bothers you now it will drive you crazy when your married." He also sd that don't expect the person change when your married.... IN other words, if he drinks, lies, cheat, smoke, does drugs.......married will not change that. I did not take my father advise and went thru hell on earth. One other piece of advise he offered..."when you marry someone you also marry their family." If his or her mother dislike you now and treats you badly it will get worse...and it does cause lots of trouble between your and spouse or lover."

Answer 8

You wouldn't know until you try.There will be mistakes but try to stand up and try again till the perfect one comes along.. I am 4th time lucky to find my soul mate....

Answer 9

u'll never be 100% sure, cuz even people who've been married for years divorce thinking of someone else...you just develop feelings for someone in the hope they care about you the same way, but its ultimately up to them as well

Answer 10

ummm....i am not sure but if u really love him and u feel right with i guess it means he is the right one for u

Answer 11

It depends on who you want him to be and if he's all you want him to be and he's good to you and treat you with respect and you all have every thing in common than you will know.