Is it time 4 me 2 move on?

Question

my b/f and i have been fighting constantly and i luv him 2 death but I CAN'T stand us fighting! sumtimes i feel he doesn't really luv me it's just that he has me!! i amm confused so plz HELP!!!

Answer 1

talk to him and sort things out. usually it works that way.

Answer 2

Avoiding Four Common Relationship Problems
Question of the Week: I have been on the dating scene for what feels like my entire life (I'm a 30 year old who has never been married). I’ve had many girlfriends, some serious, and some not so serious. Every time I believe that I’ve found “the one,” the same old relationship issues seem to pop up, and we end up breaking up. I was wondering what the most common relationship problems are and the best ways to get past them?

Relationships are the spice of life, but the spice of relationships is also bound to leave an unpleasant taste in your mouth once in awhile. Most everyone will experience a failed relationship before meeting the love of their life, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as they’re able to learn from it rather than falling into the same patterns again and again. Find out if you’re guilty of any of these common relationship problems.

Emotionally-Unhealthy Individuals
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: To optimize the success of a happy and healthy relationship, each partner needs to be at their most complete as an individual. This means each person needs to be emotionally mature and available, have a strong sense of self and know what it is that each person wants from the other. An emotionally-unhealthy individual will look at a relationship as a way to solve their own problems or as the thing in life that will make them feel complete. An emotionally-unhealthy individual may be too dependant because they’re too afraid to be alone and may settle for someone they know won’t make a good partner.

Moving Too Fast
In a world where instant gratification dominates, relationships often fail because of this exact reason – too many couples are in a rush to “make it work,” ignoring any waving red flags. You end up putting too much faith in a relationship because you want to be in one so bad and you believe a relationship will fix all of your loneliness or feelings of being incomplete. Excitement about a new relationship is one thing, but forgetting that a relationship takes a lot of time to really grow is another. There is no specific “stage” you should be in at a pre-determined time. It all depends on the couple.

Unrealistic Expectations
Romantic fantasies, unhealthy individuals and putting too much hope into an already struggling relationship all describe this general common relationship problem theme – having unrealistic expectations. Expecting that you can change any bad behaviors your partner has is unrealistic. Expecting your partner to feel the same way about everything is unrealistic. When your expectations don’t come to fruition, you place blame on the other for something that you should probably blame yourself for. The only expectations you should have about a relationship is that you will be treated as well as you treat the other person and that you will gain friendship, love, respect and support from a healthy relationship. Expect to plan for the dynamics of a relationship changing over time due to human nature and external factors, but expect that love will survive if you work at it.

Money
Everyone has a different style of dealing with money. Some of you are frugal Franks while others are spendthrifts Susies. Money can be a huge root of contention in a relationship, especially in a marriage when the money is mutually shared. Different money styles aren’t necessarily something that will hurt a relationship, but the lack of compromise or deception with money can.

Money also can represent a power struggle in a relationship and one of the partners may feel like their independence is being compromised. Before opening a joint bank account or getting married, it is essential that any money differences, issues and fears are discussed, and a compromise and budget or short-term and long-term goals are agreed upon. However, what is most essential is to respect what lines have been drawn, and not to use money as a way to exert control or power over the other.

An important element of any happy and healthy relationship is individual health. The body-mind connection is so powerful, that by taking care of your body you will help empower your mind and enrich your relationships.

oh yeah...my mom always told me "If ya gotta ask, you already know the answer!"

Answer 3

yes, its time to move on. No point to carry on when both of you are fighting all the time. Love is another issue.. you can still love him but if its doesn't work, don't force it. It will make both of you unhappy. Mayb after cooling off for a while, and if there's still that feeling inside, you may come back together again. Best of luck

Answer 4

Depending on your age seek councilling - if that doesn't help then move on. People grow apart as time progresses; we cannot change that. Work out between the pair of you why you are always arguing and then BOTH of you develop methods to prevent those occurance from happening. Communication is vital in any relationship - be it between friends or partners.

Answer 5

You should put yourself in a happy relationship. You deserve to have someone who doesn't want to fight all of the time. Yes some arguing will be normal but not constantly.

Answer 6

no one has you unless you let them. if all you do is fight and the fact that your asking if you should get out, is a really good sign pointing to yes. relationships have to have balance, yes you will fight at times but there also has to be long periods of not fighting too. move on to someone who you will get along better with, you will be happier!!

Answer 7

Hard to say. My college roommate used fight with his girlfriend all the time. I hated to be around them when that happened - it was embarrassing. They have now been married for more than 20 years. Looks like they got it all out of their systems way back then.

Answer 8

Leave him. End of story. Once you get to the point where every other conversation is an argument, things arent gonna get anywhere. Move on and dont turn back. There is always someone out there who is better, remember that.

Answer 9

Just talk to him and see what it is from his point of view that has you two arguing so much. After that come to a resolution and if you cant kick him to the curb.Couples argue its normal may be it will sub-side.

Answer 10

Maybe you 2 should b apart 4 awhile, so you can figure out which way 2 go.....

Answer 11

If i were you I would talk to him. My b/f and I used to always fight but we have gotten so much better! If you talk everything works out so much better. just try it