My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. we live an hour apart and he lives with his parents. Be4 we started going out, he used to live in a different state with his sister and her family. he told me that this one time, him and his neice got drunk and she told him that sometimes she wishes he wasnt her uncle. and she meant it in a way like she liked him and that she would be with him if they werent related. he said he told her to shut up and not to be saying stupid stuff like that. she never said it again. She is his age and that happened about 3 years ago, whats worse is that she just came into town to visit him. He says she wants to meet me and crap but im like shes a nasty girl for ever thinking something like that about her own uncle. He says they are very close and that i better deal with it and i better not be mean to her because she is his family. but i just feel kinda mad and like grossed out by her. i kno he wont do anythin with her but i dont trust her u kno?
2006-12-29 14:37:48 · 16 answers · asked by Lizeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she was immature as well as drunk. This is not really an uncommon emotion between relatives, however it is usually not verbalized or acted upon.
Your boyfriend seems to care about you. Keep the faith. Boost your own self-esteem and remember, it was 3-years ago. Don't let jealousy tear you apart. You are IMPORTANT enough to him, to share that information with you, and for him to want your company, and to share his time with you.
Your true instincts will tell you what's happening or NOT happening.
She's surely had a boyfriend or two in the lat 3-years. So cool it, for the time being. Good Luck...
2006-12-29 14:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by intrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That grosses me out if it is as serious as we are picturing it. But many young people want to marry a relative or other unattainable at sometime or another. If it is just a thought (that was not deeply thought out - you know, no major lusting going on there) with no action taken on it, (even if it was voiced), especially if the person was drunk, I would be bothered, but not horrified. I guess I'm saying, if i trusted him not to have done anything,and thought it was not much more than the crushes i got while i was in high school, then I could treat her kindly as my bf's niece.
2006-12-30 01:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no reason not to trust her. Depending on what her age was back when she said these things, she could have been dealing with a host of hormones that are hard to deal with. You should know this.
Nothing happened, and she is family. If you can't trust his family, then you will never be happily married to him.
2006-12-29 22:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of variables here... what is his family situation. What is hers? Are these stable families, or is everyone divorced or single parenting and lots of people scattered everywhere. If theese two, especailly her, come from a f'ed up family. Cut her some slack, and give him a pat on the back for knowing right from wrong. Not your problem. Get over it.
2006-12-29 22:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well unless he is one sick individual you have nothing to worry about. She is wierd for saying that but it is still his family and you should respect that. You don't have to like her but you do have to be nice to her. That doesn't mean your her best friend or her friend at all. Trust me...to avoid problems with him respect his wishes and deal with it. But if they act strange together RUN! You'll know if there is anything to worry about. You have the right to be uncomfortable but he has the right to see his family and let you meet them.
2006-12-29 22:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by heatherandbrian1826 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run the other way! Not so much about the neice' infatuation
with her uncle--that will probably pass. The problem as I see it
is he has given you an ultimatum already. Accept my family
or else. I'd do the or else.
2006-12-29 22:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is totally understandable where you are coming from that is gross! But do you really think he would do anything with her? I highly doubt he would.. She's part of his family and thats just what you have to deal with and you have to trust him!
2006-12-29 22:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you trust him or you don't , you can't have it both ways...Give him 10 points for being honest with you about it... Act like an adult and don't make a big deal out of it, unless you want trouble......
2006-12-29 22:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your boyfriend you have nothing to worry about , as for that girl shes gross.Just let her know where you stand.
2006-12-30 02:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by kellyklark101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I feel pretty grossed out by that story myself. Not something he should have shared with you.
2006-12-29 22:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋