2006-12-29 14:32:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hate is a strong emotion and if you truly think about why you hate "everything" about that person, perhaps you'll come to realize that you don't actually hate "everything". Sometimes we go into protection mode because we really like someone yet are afraid to get hurt...what if that person doesn't like us...it's safer to dislike them then to risk rejection on some level. Go ahead, sit down and write out all the things you hate about that person and then write next to it the reason why. If it's valid, has merit, then ok, perhaps you are justified in your feelings, however if the reasons appear trivial, then perhaps you need to reconsider...
It is ok to be friends with a variety of characters, helps to keep life interesting.
2006-12-29 14:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a pretty passionate feeling. So is love. The opposite of love is indifference.... not hate. I'd get logical about it... write two columns of pros and cons about the person, and if the cons outweigh the pros, then RUN as fast as you can.... eventually, you will wonder why you ever even considered being with someone like that. Don't contact them. Take their pictures off of your computer. Fill your time with more positive thoughts and activities... you will grow and become a better person and leave them in the dust!!!
2006-12-29 22:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. Ever heard the song "i hate everything about you" by 3 days grace? It say I hate everything about you so why do i still love you... You think they were just making that up for a song? hell no. This is absolutely possible. It happened to me. But don't think that you can have a relationship with that person. It won't work. Trust me
2006-12-29 22:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your talking about a lover I have wondered that too. why could i love someone who abused,lied, and cheated. How and why could i still have feelings for him. I dint know! Habit or maybe remembering a time when they were a better person. One thing i do know is time fades all wounds........and if not..... thing get help even if only for a short time.
2006-12-29 22:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by texasue77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be routed in childhood, where children who are exposed to things that dislike, are dominated by the feelings of love they have for the person who hurts them. In adulthood, they are trained to love that which is not good for them, and causes them pain.
2006-12-29 22:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly what you mean by that question...
but im recently divorced. not because either cheated. or because we got drunk. or done drugs. but because we jsut kinda fell out of love with each other. and we both wanted to be happy.
Since the split (married for 10 years ) we have fought more then any other time in our relationship. its insane really. but very emotional. I cant control it, but i just try to step back and take it bit by bit. Eventually it will be ok and your feelings will be what they are suppose to be :)
2006-12-29 22:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't hate everything about them...but don't like having feelings for them so you try to find reasons to dislike them...
2006-12-29 22:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know how it feels. You want so bad not to love a guy and his bad ways...yet for some reason your heart still loves him.
It's like your mind says NO and your heart says YES.
It sucks!
2006-12-29 22:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a very thin line between love and hate.
2006-12-29 22:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ask my-self that question everyday, and i still havent found the answer...some people tell me that im just telling my self i hate him, some say that i jsut hate what he did but i love him all the same, and others say i must be bi-polor when it comes ot him.. i know that its not the bi-polor but i think that it could be one of the two.. think about what they told me and see if that could help you
2006-12-29 23:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by XñΘ×ØÑΣ×└Ö√ËŠ×╫ë®X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋