he docked from being off-shore (only been gone a week), and hes totally wasted. He rang me and told me he kissed someone. Didnt wait around to find out more, and hung up. He had beaten some bloke up and was in a bad mood. He called me loads of really nasty names which i wont repeat. I had a really good night at work and came back to find this out!! Im unsure of what to do now! I thought he was different from all the blokes i seem to have got with. Obviously not!! Any ideas to the solution to my problem?
2006-12-29 14:09:45 · 38 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was really nice when we were together!! treated me right, helped me out etc!!
2006-12-29 14:15:49 · update #1
leave him hunni, waste of space you could do alot better why let a man upset you like this he ain't worth it ignore all the phone calls just hang up he will get the message i am not saying it is going to be easy buy you will get over it and it will make you stronger
2006-12-29 18:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
hate will only consume you in this situation! I am 99% sure he hasn't thought anymore about he conversation that has you flustered. Don't know what a bloke is I don't even know if I want to but hopefully you are not giving these blokes anything that would allow them to call you out of your name. My thought is if I will regret it later it's not worth the energy.
2006-12-29 14:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Shyne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoiding Four Common Relationship Problems
Question of the Week: I have been on the dating scene for what feels like my entire life (I'm a 30 year old who has never been married). I’ve had many girlfriends, some serious, and some not so serious. Every time I believe that I’ve found “the one,” the same old relationship issues seem to pop up, and we end up breaking up. I was wondering what the most common relationship problems are and the best ways to get past them?
Relationships are the spice of life, but the spice of relationships is also bound to leave an unpleasant taste in your mouth once in awhile. Most everyone will experience a failed relationship before meeting the love of their life, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as they’re able to learn from it rather than falling into the same patterns again and again. Find out if you’re guilty of any of these common relationship problems.
Emotionally-Unhealthy Individuals
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: To optimize the success of a happy and healthy relationship, each partner needs to be at their most complete as an individual. This means each person needs to be emotionally mature and available, have a strong sense of self and know what it is that each person wants from the other. An emotionally-unhealthy individual will look at a relationship as a way to solve their own problems or as the thing in life that will make them feel complete. An emotionally-unhealthy individual may be too dependant because they’re too afraid to be alone and may settle for someone they know won’t make a good partner.
Moving Too Fast
In a world where instant gratification dominates, relationships often fail because of this exact reason – too many couples are in a rush to “make it work,” ignoring any waving red flags. You end up putting too much faith in a relationship because you want to be in one so bad and you believe a relationship will fix all of your loneliness or feelings of being incomplete. Excitement about a new relationship is one thing, but forgetting that a relationship takes a lot of time to really grow is another. There is no specific “stage” you should be in at a pre-determined time. It all depends on the couple.
Unrealistic Expectations
Romantic fantasies, unhealthy individuals and putting too much hope into an already struggling relationship all describe this general common relationship problem theme – having unrealistic expectations. Expecting that you can change any bad behaviors your partner has is unrealistic. Expecting your partner to feel the same way about everything is unrealistic. When your expectations don’t come to fruition, you place blame on the other for something that you should probably blame yourself for. The only expectations you should have about a relationship is that you will be treated as well as you treat the other person and that you will gain friendship, love, respect and support from a healthy relationship. Expect to plan for the dynamics of a relationship changing over time due to human nature and external factors, but expect that love will survive if you work at it.
Money
Everyone has a different style of dealing with money. Some of you are frugal Franks while others are spendthrifts Susies. Money can be a huge root of contention in a relationship, especially in a marriage when the money is mutually shared. Different money styles aren’t necessarily something that will hurt a relationship, but the lack of compromise or deception with money can.
Money also can represent a power struggle in a relationship and one of the partners may feel like their independence is being compromised. Before opening a joint bank account or getting married, it is essential that any money differences, issues and fears are discussed, and a compromise and budget or short-term and long-term goals are agreed upon. However, what is most essential is to respect what lines have been drawn, and not to use money as a way to exert control or power over the other.
An important element of any happy and healthy relationship is individual health. The body-mind connection is so powerful, that by taking care of your body you will help empower your mind and enrich your relationships.
2006-12-29 14:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by soul child 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
To the left, To the left, everything he owns in a box to the left. Forget that mf, girl you too fly for that. Ignore the hell out of him because please believe he'll try to get back with you. When he does you have to decide do you want to get back with him and play the hell out of him or just shut him down and tell him you've got a better man. Either way its going to be very pleasant. For now push it to the side, and focus on whats important, YOU!
2006-12-29 14:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by TILAC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you cant find it in your heart to forgive and forget than let him go. Tell him it's over, or dont tell him at all. You wont be happy with him anyway. Just dont talk to him anymore. Tell him that you are hardworking and love yourself and that you also dont go through life breaking people's heart and its unfair that someone is doing it to you. Get away from him, he sounds like all sorts of bad for you.
2006-12-29 14:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Spicemom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone... stop going for the guys that are bad. Find a guy that is a bad boy in bed but a gentleman everywhere else.
2006-12-29 14:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda&Chloe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hun, this guy isn't worth your time. find someone who respects you and has a fun (but healthy) lifestyle. keep your head up, maintain a positive attitude, and i'm sure a nice "bloke" who's worth your time will come around =)
first give yourself time to get over this one.
2006-12-29 14:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Break it off immediately! He kissed someone! Please tell him to beat it! You start the year off with a new outlook. Why the hell would you want ot be with someone tht kisses other people and thinks they can justify it? BS! That Bloke should croke! '-)
2006-12-29 14:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
BE SINGLE. Find a new place to meet men. Don't even think about seeing this guy again. So sorry. What a loser he is being.
I wish you the best!
2006-12-29 14:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dump him girl...your way to good to be sitting around thinking about him...you will find someone else...your so much better then that
2006-12-29 14:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋