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cell and texts her. they havent officially met but i am worried about her. this is a month now. i think she is curious too, she seems so upset about it. should i tell her to suspect this guy. women are naive to meeting guys online. he seem nice but seem a bit flaky. they live in different towns about 60 miles apart. she is beautiful and other guys ask her out but he ask her to give him a chance and to be patient with her. are there signs she should look out for? could this be a con artist? how can i help her scoop out this guy to see if he is married or have someone? pls help she have kids and i want the best for her.

2006-12-29 13:32:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Sounds odd and creepy!Guys are only secretive like that when they are hiding something. Ask around and find out as much as you guys can before she makes any serious moves. And if he gets mad then he was hiding something.

2006-12-29 13:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Flipp 3 · 0 0

First, remind her of Scott Peterson and that story!
you could try looking him up in a phone book from the town he lives in and call there to see who answers. Depending upon what type of business it is, perhaps you could drive the 60 miles and go to his work to take a look at him since he wouldn't know you.
If she can get something written in handwriting by him and check that against the samples of handwriting at handwritingwizard.com. that is interesting, by the way, to check your own handwriting as well.
Depending upon where she met him online, some sites have a proflle of the person who belong to the forum so she could check that - if he is not honest that might not mean a thing - but she may be able to check other posts or comments made by him to see how he responds to others.
The last bit of advice would be that when she does meet him the first time, make it a date with two of you there so that both you and her can get an impression of the guy.
Just tell her to be sceptical until he proves otherwise!!

2006-12-29 21:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1 0

Sometimes it's best not to meddle in someone elses business -- but in this case it sounds like you have good reason. It already sounds like he is married or he's hiding something.
It give me chills thinking about what could possibly happen. Maybe you could encourage her to go out with someone she has met face to face. These on-line meetings seldom work out, and in many cases can be very unsafe [I don't think I need to tell you any of the horror stories I've heard on the news or read about]

2006-12-29 21:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by J T 6 · 0 0

If he only talks to her when he's at work, it sounds like he is trying to hide something........about his home life or something. I've known a guy ten years online and I still haven't met him. He said one time that he's a jerk irl and I don't understand it because he seems really nice. I have only ever met two decent guys from the internet and I knew them both online a year before I met them. Just fyi

2006-12-29 21:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Chair 3 · 0 0

You should definitely remind her to watch her back. And, since you're her friend, it wouldn't hurt if you kept your eyes open, too. He could be just about anything at this point....he could be married, he could be a perv, a player. And he could be legit.

She doesn't need to be meeting up with him alone, though. Go with her if necessary There are lots of "signs" to watch out for. If setting up a meeting is difficult, if he won't tell her anything "important" about himself, but mainly -- "if it don't feel right, it probably ain't".

2006-12-29 21:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 1 0

sounds married to me

2006-12-29 21:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by ~Pookie~ 1 · 0 0

sounds like you want her for yourself..just tell her his gay

2006-12-29 21:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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