My friend recently got engaged and getting married in June when she told me, I instantly had negative thought b/c 1.she cheats on her boyfriend 2.She complains about him all the time. To tell the truth I was actually disgusted by the fact that she was getting married and I do not even have a boyfriend and I just broke up with the guy I thought I was going to marry. I just did not think that she deserved it. I know I am wrong but I am not the only friend that is thinking this way, she seems to be falling out with everyone. I am really trying to be supportive and be a TRUE friend but she calls me daily about her wedding and I am getting sick and tired of hearing about it. I dont think I am jealous but maybe? How can I get through this without being a *****!! Im just really fustrated and tired of being single and it is depressing to hear her talk about her marriage plans. I will 30 next year and I am not hopeful I will find someone.
2006-12-29 13:21:55 · 11 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you are jealous I think you are upset in knowing that someone who does not deserve to be that happy is and you are so miserable! I feel for you. I have been single for a long time and I see all my friends with bad intentions get all the goods ones. But in the end it will all come crashing down trust me! But if you were true friends you should be able to tell her to slow her role and she not get offended...if she does then hey just join the crowd with the rest of her ex friends that found out the hard way!
2006-12-29 13:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by from_me_to_you 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be a little jealous of your friend but not meaning the fact you think that she doesn't deserve it. It's something you will get over and think of it this way, if she has already cheated on him things can't last too long before something goes wrong. You just have to keep thinking positive about your own relationships, and know that it's best to wait until you know that you are ready. Also it's normal to get sick of hearing about things, it doesn't matter if your jealous or not... there's only so many times you can take hearing about the same thing before you snap. The best advice I can give you is to try and feel happy for her and if you need to get away from it all just go out so that you miss her calls every now and again but don't screen her off all together, after all she is still your friend.
2006-12-29 13:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, so maybe you're a little jealous. BUT I think you have very legitimate concerns about the future of this relationship. Maybe you could approach her with a question like...why do you think you cheat? Is there something missing with this guy? what is it you're lacking? there is someone out there for you. don't give up, and never settle!! trust me, you'll regret it later when you meet someone wonderful and you r tied down to mr. he'll do....
2006-12-29 13:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Angi W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel, if she doesn't like it well you have other friends. She will relise she has lost friends and when things don't work out with her soon to be hubby she will come crawling back.
As for being 30 i'm 30 in 4mths nearly divorced and I feel it's the prime of my life. Just get out and enjoy it.
2006-12-29 13:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by jobear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous of your friend, but it's understandable. I felt the same way when my friend was engaged. Our lives are a lot different now, and I'm not jealous anymore. There's good in every time period of your life. Try to enjoy being single.
2006-12-29 13:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by micha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suppose you could call it jealousy, but it isn't really. i understand where you are coming from completely. why does someone like her get the chance to be married when she treats him like dirt and you can't even get a man. everyone has been there. just look at it this way. i would rather be single in a year than going through a divorce. trust me, people like her get what's coming to them in the end.
2006-12-29 13:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it must be hard for you but do it for your friend. 2nd 30 you are a spring chicken dont give up on love it will come to you soon. i wish you the very best hope you have a good new year and hang in there it will come.
2006-12-29 13:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
karma will come back and bite her in the *** and u will find someone eventually but its not fair to u who has been faithful and true to get hurt and her and her stupid self gets unfair i think u should tell her soon to be and clear the air even though she might get mad at you now later she will thank u for helping her save a man from getting hurt
2006-12-29 13:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by babiedoll9264 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 04:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how u feel about your friend. Then I'm sorry to say you are not a good friend.Friends don't hold grudges against each other or talk ill about each other and most importantly they should be happy for one another.
2006-12-29 13:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋