How can i keep a good conversation in my relationship?

Question

Me and my boyfriend just sit on the phone and listen to each other breathe until he hangs up. He is the big talker, i have always had this problem in relationships. i never had great conversation. i hate that, because he has a lot of female friends that he can talk to. I just need some advance other than speaking my mind cause i can't seem to do that. when he gets bored he asks what i want to go do, and i say nothing cause there is nothing to do in my town, so he goes out of town to party. i don't blame him, i just need some advice. I can feel he is gettig bored and i am too. Not with our relationship just with my ability to keep a good conversation going. PLEASE HELP!!!!!! THANX

Answer 1

What sort of things interest you? maybe you can start there and the conversation may lead to another.
If you watch movies or tv shows together, discuss it afterwards.
you can also try going a few days without talking and see how much you want to say after not talking to him at all, it may work! :)
Good luck and Happy New Years!

Answer 2

I had that problem too but you better get control of it before he find someone else too! But just a few ways that you can actually improve your communication between you two is tell him how you feel! There is something that stops you from talking to him like he is your best friend. You need that comfort zone in the relationship so that you can tell him what's on your mind with complaining and without thinking that he doesn't care! When tells stories, think of things that can relate to him or stories that you know of that may help his situation. As far as going out... get a hold on it! There are plenty of girls waiting by the phone for their guy to call and say lets go somewhere. Parties are not a good resort to go to after you have been rejected by your girl it's like falling into temptation. Go out with him. I live in Chicago and people say theres nothing to do all the time! Be creative and surprise him with affection. Maybe you need to ask yourself to you really like/love him enough to step outside your comfort zone.

Answer 3

Ask open ended questions about things that are mutual, or things that he enjoys or spends time doing. Even if the questions seem pious or stupid, everyone loves to talk about themselves.
Sometimes when relationships hit a certain point there seems to be nothing left to talk about and the questions become yes and no. INstead of asking "how was your day" ask did anything different happen today? or What was the craziest thing you seen today or something like. Start an original conversation and try and go with it. It takes time and practice for sure.

Answer 4

You both have full lives, there should be plenty to talk about, even after years. the past, childhood experiences, the funny thing that happened at work today, how my kid really drove me nuts yesterday, hopes for the future, dreams, fantasies. you can share stories about the most embarrassing thing to ever happen to you, the actor/actress you had a crush on when you were ten. even after years you probably havent learned all there is to know about him, nor he about you. There should be plenty of stuff left to talk about. Theres nothing wrong with talking about your day to day life, job, kids, laundry shopping, he goes through it too. Its common ground you share, it doesn't have to be boring.

Answer 5

Communication is healthy for every relationship.How do you feel when someone ask you how you're feeling?i bet you feel good.You can ask anything going on in his life if you feel left out of his conversations.He will pretty much appreciate your concerns about him.it is good to know that someone is holding you down.you don't have to be a talkertive to let your guy know your concerns about him.

Answer 6

Think up some things you can talk about, maybe food, music, shopping, traveling, experiences that you've had. Get him to take you with him when he goes out of town.

Answer 7

Stop worrying, thats probably one of the reasons. Your trying to force yourself to talk, and thats hard to do. Let me tell you something, the girls that like me, like me because of what i talk about and me "being funny" and I don't have any secrets, I just talk 2 things...1. Total random things, i'll talk about my chair or a phone or my car or what i'm thinking and 2. my emotions and paast experiences.

Answer 8

Ask him some of the questions you see on Yahoo answers...get his opinion on some of them....You might learn something about him you never would have before