my daughter's dad just died and she wont talk to me or to any one for that matter what do i do?

Answer 1

I am not sure how old your daughter is so it is hard to give suggestions. My father died unexpectedly when I was 22. I didn't talk to anyone but my siblings for days, I cried in a way that I had never cried before and I broke down if anyone asked how I was doing or feeling. My best advice is to let her know that you are here for her but let her come to you when she is ready. I was able to talk about him and how I was feeling only sometimes, I know that sounds weird but I couldn't talk about it if someone else brought it up, but every few hours I would start talking about him.
I am guessing here that you are no longer with her Father based on the wording in your question. Something to be aware of if he did not play a major role in her life is that her hope has now died as well. Our Father had not been in our lives for years. Even more devestating than his death was the loss of hope that he would someday let us know that he cared about us, and explain why he was not a part of our lives. If this is the case for your daughter as well, please for the sake of both you and your daughter do not question how she is feeling. I know that it was difficult for our Mother as she was the one who raised us all alone, she had to watch us grieve for a man who did next to nothing for us, but the worst thing that you can do is to let your daughter know how you feel. I understand looking back how my Mother must have felt, but at the time I was consumed with grief and could not understand how she could be angry at us for grieving our Father.
I would write her a note saying something along the lines of I am here for you if you want to talk, or just don't want to be alone. Remember that she will go through the whole grieving process, she will get angry, depressed, and even seem like she doesn't care. My best advice is to remain calm and help her through each stage as best you can.
I am sorry for both your loss and the loss for your daughter.

Answer 2

My dad died last year. Its the hardest thing I've ever experienced. He was so young and I'm having to deal with the fact that he'll never be there to walk me down the aisle or hold his grandkids.

I think what's helped me most is having my siblings to lean on. Its good to have people my age that have gone through the same experience and feel the same emotions. Does she have siblings that can help her out?

Also, there are a number of books that talk about the afterlife. I've found so much comfort in reading books by psychics who have a connection to the world beyond and convey their knowledge (I don't know if you believe in that kind of thing).
I have faith that he's watching over me though and that knowledge guides me through the grief.

The pain will get easier. Just tell her that and I think that's the best you can do. Bless you.

Answer 3

It would help to know how old she is. A younger kid may be more open to drawing or talking about things in their play - as in a 4 year old having an imaginary friend who's dad died and talking for her friend. An older child will be more able to talk, but could be not willing to talk. If it just happened it may take a while for her to talk. Be available to her and let her know it's okay if she wants to talk and it's okay if she wants to not talk about it right now. Seeing a counselor is a possibility for her as well. If she's in school then give the school counselor a call to let her/him know.

Answer 4

As hard as it is give her time to be by herself this is a very traumatic thing for someone to have to go through just be there when she is ready to talk trust me she will need you. She has all these emotions right now and just needs to have her space.

Answer 5

Its accutally a good responce in a way shes probaly sad.. anyother person would have been so just try cheering her up with her fathers story and try not to act sad

Answer 6

Just give her time and let her know that u r there for her when she wants to talk.

Answer 7

Even if she won't talk she will listen. tell her you are there for her when she is ready. then just let time do the healing. in time she will want to get on with her life.

Answer 8

You can't force her to talk. Just let her know you are there for her when and if she needs to talk. Let he know that it is healthy to grieve and very unhealthy to bottle it up inside.
Pray for her!

Answer 9

Get off the computer and be there for her. Even if you sit quietly. She will talk when she is ready.

Answer 10

let her have her space she will talk to you when she is ready. but keep an eye on her with out her knowing.