Is 36 too old to have a child alone?

Question

I want a child but the husband thing isn't working out for me. Is there anyone out there that is in this situation?

Thanks to all who answered....

More information:

I am financially stable and I've never been married. By "having a baby", I didn't necessarily mean I was going to have it, I should have said "either have or adopt" because either way doesn't matter to me.

Answer 1

Not if you have the money to support a child.

Answer 2

If you are financially comfortable and emotionally & physchologically healthy... and understand that having and taking care of a baby is very difficult WITH a partner (let alone all by yourself!) than do what you want too. But remember that it's vital for there to be some sort of a strong father-figure in the baby's life. (My spouse grew up without a Dad and said it was VERY HARD for him) I don't care what anyone says I believe that children DESERVE to have both a father and a mother when this can be managed. Or at least A LOT of people who will be there for the child (extended family... Grandma or Grandpa... Aunts... Uncles, etc.) I understand that things happen.

My Mom had my older sister alone (single, teenaged mother) and she managed. But she said it was very difficult. She was a teen... which I'm sure made it much harder... but she said she was upset because she didn't have anyone to really share it with. You have to factor all of this in... which I'm sure you have.

I ran this question by my spouse and he said "No, it's not too old. It will probably be hard for the person. Why don't they just consider adopting? Then she'd have a child and be giving an unwanted child a better life/home." I agree with that as well.

Having said all of that. You're 36... not too old or too young to have a baby. You absolutely can have a child on your own if you feel that you can handle it and genuinely want too.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

It isn't if you are ready for your life to change totally -- I mean totally for the best and the worst. The best fun you'll ever have is being a Mom/Most challenging and some times the most frustrating job on the planet is MOM.

If you have a stable job and are over the end of your marriage ( ie in a good emotional place) have a good set of friends and are ready to hook in to the Mom's groups in your area - Go for it! I finally had my first at 39 and I know someone who adopted on her own in her 40's. Age is just a number and honestly your 30's is a much better time to have a child then your 20's -- if I had had a child in my 20s oooyyy!

Ignore who ever it was who told you to sit tight and wait for prince charming -- he may never show. If you want a child and are ready to have one do it. You will meet prince charming if you are supposed to... but you can't wait forever to have a child. Good luck!

Answer 4

No, it's not too old either w/a husband or without one! As long as you're financially capable and emotionally stable, then go ahead!

I actually think having a child later in life can be better. By the age of 36, you're probably more mature, patient, and less involved with "trivia." Just the right age/time in life to become a mom!

Answer 5

One it's not too old... but if you wait until your 40's you are going to think twice/three times about it... you are in a phase i guess where we shall call it "Last Call for Babies"... Do it, ok, you are single? And what? A lot of people do it. I am sure you have a family and friends. Being a mom is the best gift you could have, why pass it up b/c you haven't met the right partner. Adopt a child that needs you as much as you need him/her in your life.

Answer 6

I am not 36 but I am having my third baby alone- I was married and had two kids but the marriage did not work out and I am not waiting on another man to have a child- I easily found a sperm donor, though I picked from the "dead beat" section. In other words he is an alcoholic and likes it too much to fight for custody- that works for me though because custody, even with some one you mutually agree to not have a relationship but a child, can become ugly-

Anyway, 36 is not too old to have a baby alone if that is what you want, once our baby clock starts ticking there is not much we can do about it but listen. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

My mother had me when she was 36 and unmarried, although she did have 3 children before me with a husband. When she had me, my siblings were much older, but my mom raised me and my brother all on her own and she did a hell of a job. She worked hard, provided the best she could and did the job of two parents. While ideally having a mommy and daddy is the best route, there is nothing wrong with single mothers. They can do just as good of job as any of us. It might be more work but my mom says it was worth it. :-) Whatever you decide, its your choice. Good luck to ya!

Answer 8

I'm not in that situation but I don't think it is too old. I always tell myself that if I'm not married by the tI'me im 26 then I'm gonna start my family anyways, and since I have always wanted to adopt internationally then it would work out OK. I think you should go for it!
Best of luck!!!

Answer 9

I don't think 36 is too old to be a single parent however anything after 35 runs a higher risk of pregnancy complications and birth defects and you have a harder time concieving. But if you want to- go for it! Sounds like you really want to!!! Good luck!

Answer 10

Im 39 now i had my third baby at 36 the father still thinks hes 21 so basicly im doing it by myself and i would't change a thing.

Answer 11

If you think you can afford the child alone with no help then go for it! Do you want anymore kids in the future?
good luck:)