I just met this women who is a great person yet she does not talk unless I speak to her, and it leaves me frustrated. The other day I was explaining to her some deep issues about my past and how they affected my choices in romantic partners, and I asked her for some feedback and all she had to say was that she was listening to me, but thats all she said. She never initiates conversation, and the other day we were watching TV in her house and not one word was spoken, I left her house in frustration again. I like her and in fact made her my girlfriend recently but now I am wondering if I made the right choice. However, I do not want to runaway, I am always running when a challenge is presented, there is a part of me that wants to stick it out and see if we could work out this communication problem. I realize this is who she is and she may never change, but I am at the end of my rope with this situation. I am alone in this relationship, this relationship is about to sink.
2006-12-29 13:00:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing like the silent teatment, huh? I can totally understand why you may be feeling as if you're "alone" when with her, perhaps she has "issues" in her past that make her less likely to be open minded or talkitive. I admire you for trying to work this out, too many people these days just run whenever there's the slightest problem in a relationship. I think the others are right as well, perhaps you could find a friendly and non-offensive way to ask her why she is so "quite". She may not even know she's "quite" it could just be the "way she is." :-D I hope that you both will find a great solution to this frustrating problem, relationships are importaint, and remember "if it's worth having, than it's worth fighting for!" :-)
Best Wishes to Both of You,
and a Happy New Year!!!
2006-12-29 13:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by kefirasmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could give it a little more time. If she doesn't open up and start talking to you more, then you have a right to move on. Maybe she is shy or nervous right now. I remember being in new relationships and just being nervous and afraid I would say the wrong thing and embarrass myself, so I would choose to keep quiet until I got to know the person better. Good Luck.
2006-12-29 13:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what got you hooked up?
Talk a load of crap and see if she is really listening!
Wait for her to call you... if she doesn't maybe she just doesn't know how to tell you she is not interested...
However some people are like that I had a friend like it. It drives you crazy! Anyhow the only way you can get it to work between you is to figure out how to get her talking. Ask questions about herself that require an answer, avoiding yes and no questions and go from there...good luck
2006-12-29 13:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Marmitemonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't like to talk about past relationships. Give her sometime to open up. She may be still shy. We have bondreies to people until we get to know others and this could be one of them.
2006-12-29 13:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by neveah t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be shy, ask her what her hobbies are or what films she likes, then start a conversation. Give it more time, but if she stays this way, tell her you don't feel comfortable that she doesnt seem to talk much. Talk to her before you leave it.
2006-12-29 13:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's great about her that you found when you met her? Did she talk then? If yes, try to recall the content of your conversations...perhaps you should go back to those topics.
Enjoy being near her in silence...at least youre not arguing over petty things.
2006-12-29 13:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by *) ayla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is important. If you don't have that what have you got? Running away from everything is one thing thing, but knowing when you can't change something and having sense to walk away is another. Your personalities just aren't compatible and you're finding this out. Lucky you aren't married to her.
2006-12-29 13:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dumping someone because their not talkative is not a good reason at all! it just seems like you guys are lacking friendship in your relationship. you just have to get her to open up to you more... she's your girlfriend & you have the right to know whats wrong. just ask her why she wont open up to you & try to fix it before you give up completely.
2006-12-29 13:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you talk too much,and dont let her think.I have seen this way too often,sometimes u need to shut up and listen to what she has to say.Even if it is silence,sometimes thats the best way to enjoy yourself!
2006-12-29 13:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess if its that important to you, but think about it first some people just don't like to express themselves much, like me, maybe you could each learn something from each other, don't make a quick decision
2006-12-29 13:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by leena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋