His father and I are divorced. My son was 26 when we divorced and a father of 2. He was on drugs with his dad. Yet he blames him for nothing . Can any one help.
2006-12-29 12:44:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How stressful for you. Forget about them for a minute and think about yourself. Have you tried narc-anon? It's for family members of those affected by addiction to drugs...al-anon might be easier to find & has a similar approach...but it will help YOU deal with the situation. Good luck to you.
2006-12-29 12:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by curious! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There usually are two sides to the story , with out knowing the other side only what you are telling I will have to go with that ..
No one of us is perfect , that said ,there is the possibility that you have to shoulder much of the blame , only you in your heart will know that and is up to you to face up , accepting fault and taking responsibility will be the first step , not necessarily repairing the relation , but it could be possible if he forgives what ever is bothering him , but that is not up to you ... The past is gone there is nothing one can do to fix it , you just have to accept it for what it is , what you have to do is reconcile with your self , that you did he best you could or knew how , and forgive your self for the errors committed , you have only the future to look forward ... confront your son , and tell him you did the best you knew how , and to get over it , put the ball on his court , and look for life's satisfactions on your own , asked him to join you , and if he doesn't is his loss , get friend or family support , and if posible search for therapy , you have to think about your self .
2006-12-29 13:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by young old man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theres your problem the drugs. Drugs do cause mental illness dont take the blame lying down ask him how it is that u r to blame.But im telling u your not to blame!!!
2006-12-29 17:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't let him blame you for everything. i don't know why people are so upset about rocking the family boat. if there is anyone in the world that you should be able to say anything to it should be family. the next time he wants to blame you for whatever, you point out what the real reason is. he'll keep blaming you until you don't take the blame.
2006-12-29 12:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might see if your son would be willing to attend family counseling with you. If not I suggest you go alone. A therapist will be best able to advise you on this. Pray about it. All things are possible through God.
2006-12-29 13:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try Nar-Anon - for friends and families of people addicted to narcotics. That will help you. Or they may be able to suggest other help. You may need professional help.
I will pray for you.
2006-12-29 17:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if you are divorced tell him this
I am not going to help you pay off for you being sick. It is your fault you choose to do drugs and it wasent my fault. You choose to do that.
2006-12-29 12:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to go to family counseling. Why don't you just minimize your contact with your son until he gets the help he so desperately needs?
2006-12-29 12:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by greeneyes25162 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a grown man, with his own problems. Until he gets help for his problems then just let him know that you are there when he does start getting help.
2006-12-29 12:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may god help you !
2006-12-29 12:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋