Ive been with my gf for three years and I dont love her and dont know if I ever will. I care for her very much and have started feeling bored and tied down. She is a good girl and I dont want to hurt her. We rarly fight but dont do much anymore except stay home. If I go out I want tto meet single girls/women rather than going out just for the hell of it. It has been sooo long and she must think I love her (I have never said it) I feel really bad breaking it off after such time. I dont want her to feel used or abondoned or anything like that. I wish she would break up with me!!! what do I do? Ive tried to find a reason to break up but the only one I could find is that I dont love her. At least I think i dont. I wish I could go back two years and do it, feel like im loosing oportunities and gaining what ifs everyday!!Help
2006-12-29 12:25:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just need to come clean and tell her. If you have never told her you loved her in the 3yrs you've been together . . . she should have some clue. The longer you wait the more difficult it will be to break up. Hopefully the two of you can remain friends. Some people just make better friends than lovers. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-29 12:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_carmel_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you have been doing a lot of thinking lately and that you feel that in the best interest of both of you, you need to take a break from the relationship for a while. You should leave the door slightly ajar because you probably have a gem compared to what else is out there in the single world these days. You just need to compare what you have to other options. Suggest she date others as well. You never know, you might see her out having fun with another man and again realize that you have someone very special.
2006-12-29 20:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by thetutor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not abnormal to have a relationship grow stale. Often, people just don't click for a long-lasting type of thing. Whatever your case may be, dragging this out longer isn't going to hurt her any less. You're probably not going to suddenly wake up one day and decide you love her and want to be with her forever, so the best thing you can do for her is to break up. Tell her the truth. Tell her what you said here and how you feel. It's going to hurt, but staying in a relationship you don't want to be in isn't going to solve anything and will only end up hurting her more in the long run.
2006-12-29 20:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to hurt her very much but the longer you let this relationship go on the more it will hurt her. Be honest with her, she will still want to smack you but eventually she will move on and be happy without you in her life. Don't try to get her to break up with you, tell her the truth. If you honestly feel like there is no way this is going to work don't give her false hope, just break it off altogether. It's hard but it's the best thing for both of you to be happy in the long run.
2006-12-29 20:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by dlsjbk2125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider what you've learned in the last three years. Your experience with your gf has been a learning experience. You can't change history but you can change how you view it...so be thankful for the opportunities you had for learning. As for breaking up, be honest with yourself. How would you want it? Would you want her to deal with the issue as you propose? Tell her your feelings. It happens only once. Then it's over. Drag it out and you continue to suffer for weeks or months. Be true to yourself and honest with her. Good luck.
2006-12-29 20:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop for a second and think to yourself how did you stay in a relationship with a person for three years you dont love
1. i hate to say it but your crazy or
2. you really do love her but you dont wanna admit it
3.your scared of love
but the best thing to do is tell her and have people around when you break up with cause she might try and kill you when she finds out you dont love her and you wasted three years
2006-12-29 20:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. Its a shame that after 3 years you realized you have no feelings for her. I suggest you don't ruin her New Year and probably break-up with her after a week. Its not going to be easy on both of you. But its better to do it then living a lie. Good Luck and HAPPY NEW YEAR.
2006-12-29 20:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are feeling this way now, don't hurt you or her anymore than you already have. if you cannot tell her you love her and you can't honestly answer that yourself it's time to get out before someone gets seriously hurt. sit down and explain your feelings and go with the flow, communication is the key
2006-12-29 20:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave her. Take her out, but not in public like a resturaunt. Somewhere where you can be alone and tell her straight out that you don't love her and can't be with her anymore. Tell her she is good and deservs a guy who will love her, but that guy isn't you. Do it, and don't look back.
Good luck
2006-12-29 20:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Interested 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dewd it is so much better to deal with this before you end up cheating on her. I applaud you for being great man.
You probably want to go ahead and end it with her and move on. If you two are really in love or what ever you will end up with her again.
2006-12-29 20:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋