help?!!? need advice quick!!!?

Question

my mom wont let me do nothing she wont let me go to the movies with my friends no more. i cant do nothing.i have a boyfriend he is 16 and im 15 and i understand that i cant go nowhere with him.but my friends i have been knowing them for 3 years. and i cry everyday because my mom wont let me go nowhere i cant do nothing i cant go out with my friends i cant go out the door. all i can do is sit down on my computer and eat. im not even on punishment. i dont understand and i need a life. my mom told me im not allowed out of the house accept to go to school ,until i get 18. i feel like i wrong for having a boyfriend i feel like im wrong for living.sometime i even think im better off not alive. i dont know what to do.....can somebody give me some advice on what to do

everything seemed okay for a while and now i think my mom is loosing her mind.i know i might have the rest of my life to live but i need to have teenage life to. im crying everday and nobody understands how i feel

my dad is around and my mom dont listen to him...she tells him that im her child. and yes he is my biological father

Answer 1

Is this for real? I mean I am almost hoping this is a joke. If not, then talk to your father about this. Is he around? Do you have another adult around there that you can talk to? Maybe you all could sit and discuss your feeling about needing more of a social life.
I hope that you will get a better situation.


Added on: Then go to a school counselor. Got to your grandparents. Or a write a letter as someone on here suggested. I bet if your mom knew how desparately lonely you felt, then she would relent. If my daughter described to me how she felt life was not worth living , then I would stand alert to listen to her. Make some compromises with her. She may be paranoid that you are "going to go wild" which is what is making her more controlling. Assure her that you are trustworthy and LIVE by your word, or things will only get worse.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Ok, first you need to learn how to write. I'm sorry, but its true, and it might help you get what you want from your mother.

I would suggest writing a long, comprehensive letter to your mother, saying that you understand and appreciate her concern for you, but that in order for you to grow up and be a productive person, you need to go out and talk to and meet people, gain experiences, and make decisions for yourself. I would tell her that if you are a homebody all the time, you will not be able to talk to people and engage in social situations and make good decisions because you don't have any experiences with those things. If she is afraid of you getting into trouble or something, I would tell her that you need to go out and make mistakes so that you can learn from them and have that knowledge when you really need it after high school.

I'm almost 23, and when I was your age I had maximum freedom. I pretty much did what I wanted and I screwed up a lot, but when I got to college I was much better off than many kids who were very sheltered and had never had any experiences beyond the eyes of their parents.

Answer 3

Sit down and have a talk with her, tell her to give you at least one chance to prove to her you won't do anything bad. Your mother is probably just a little over protective. I understand where she is coming from also, this world is so bad now, you don't know what is out there. I think the world is not as good as before. Someone could kidnap you, rape you, even kill you. But you should still be able to maybe hang out at the mall with a group of friends, or maybe go see a movie. You should be able to hang out with your friends once in a while, but not every weekend.

Answer 4

I think the name you chose for your avatar here tells most of the story. What kind of message are you trying to send to the world and your mother anyway? Are you a baby or are you a young adult? Think carefully about what kinds of messages and behaviors you are sending. I would keep a baby under tight supervision. I would allow a more mature child more freedom. That is your mother's job. You grow up and you get more freedom. How to send a consistent flow of messages that show that you are mature enough to be safe on your own? Stop whining, for one thing. Think about a beautiful, intelligent mature woman that you admire and then think about how far she would get in life whining like a five year old. Now, think about what she would look like in her face, her expressions, her posture her walk her tone of voice, her self-control, her willingness to listen and learn and try and work. Copy that. Be consistent. And, remember to consider other's feelings and other's responsibilities. That is one of the biggest differences being baby girls and women . . .baby's think only about themselves and their feelings and their needs. Women consider and understand and care about other people's feelings and needs and fears and troubles, too. What happened to make your mother so afraid for your safety that she's keeping you as close to her as she can? What is HER side of the story that you did not include here? Telling both sides of a story honesty is a clear indicator of maturity. (Later. VERY nice choice, my dear, for a new avatar name. Now, be one. : )

Answer 5

I think she's being extreme. But you are just 15. You have the rest of your life to party and have fun. And school should be more important than having a boyfriend, anyway. Don't be mad at your mom. You have no idea how lucky you are to have a mom who cares for you.

Answer 6

sounds like your mom is having issues with letting her "little girl" go. You need to talk to her one on one. Tell her that its not reallly fair and that you have done nothing wrong to get all the freedom taken away. Also add in that you are willing to compromise when and where you can and cant go. Usually understanding is all it takes

Answer 7

what have youdone to piss off your mom and if the answer nothing then you must be really pretty and your moms afraid of you getting rapped or something or she believes in old morals where the girls go to school and comes home and helps out around the house try helping mom around the house or try telling your mom you don't understand her reasoning and ask her to explain why she doing what she doing

Answer 8

first thing you need to do is get rid of the suicidal thoughts... those aren't good for anyone's head!!!! have you ever sat down and talked with her on the reasons why you aren't allowed? try asking your mom to take you and your friends to a movie. tell her that she can do stuff with you. tell your mom everything within reason. that will help with trust. the world is a crazy place to be, i can see why your mom don't want you to go anywhere, she is prolly afraid of the weirdo's!!!! be reasonable with her and try to be calm about it. take a stab at sports, she will hopefully let you out the door to go to practices and things of that nature.

Answer 9

i fully understand some parents can be so overprotective. try to have a heart to heart talk with your parents when you turn 16 and ask them to trust you a little more and give you more freedom. let them know that forcing you to stay away and indoors will only make you want to rebel later. let them know that as your parents you love and respect them but they are suffocating you and you don't want to start doing stupid things to get some freedom.

Answer 10

I think you are maybe being a tad on the dramatic side. It may seem unfair now, but parents always have a reason for doing things and making the decisions they make.