I want to do something special this year in remberance of my sister who was killed 19 years ago in villa park?

Question

She was killed by a train and I was thinking a canle light vigil or somthing any ideas please let me know.....??? Thank u all....

Answer 1

Plant a tree for her or name a star after her.

Answer 2

When my 6 week old granddaughter died, we sent balloons up with little notes attached as to why we had done it. It was extremely wonderful to get 2 of the cards back. The people were awesome. One of the families planted a tree for her.

Her sister and cousin were raised together and were 3 and 5 when this happened so it was a way for them to participate also.

I don't know how old she was, but maybe a fund raiser for charity or some such thing. { Like a childrens home}

Answer 3

My brother was killed 3 years ago in January, and every year we all get together with his friends and have dinner and everyone brings their favorite photos of him. We all go around and tell our favorite stories about him and share the pictures, then we go to the bar that we all used to go to for every occasion! It's a way for everyone to get together and remember him in a happy way that is similar to how things used to be when he was here! We also have a cross put up on the side of the road next to where he was killed, we put a wreath on it and we also put flowers and pictures at his graveside! Good luck and my prayers are with you at this difficult time!
Also, and this isn't something that is done on the day he died, but we are in a small towna nd our family has set up a scholarship fund in his memory! Every year at our local high school, one of our family members presents a graduate with similar interests and qualities as he had with the scholarship! The scholarship is to the school that he attended.

Answer 4

Anything that you do will be done out of love, so no matter what you decide to do, it will be special. That can even be a small memorial gathering, inviting family and friends, including any of her friends that you can find. It doesn't have to be by candle light. A few people speaking briefly about her, perhaps including her favorite song or quotation, etc. I'm sure you get the idea.

Answer 5

I think that would be lovely. The man who said no.....well maybe he hasn't lost a person he loved so dearly.

You could also put her picture and a small article about her in the local paper. I am going to do that some day, my son died at the age of 21, four years ago. I think it good to honor those we have lost. Any we do grieve. And we do have times of joy and celebration for their lives. We are human and we miss those who have passed on before us.

YOu could also just put up some flowers and a small sign in memory of her.

19 years ago you lost her.....and in your heart and soul you will always miss her. We can't ever understand the why of these things until we join them.

It is ok to cry, it is ok to laugh, it is ok to remember the good and the bad.

I lost my dad when he was fairly young. AT Christmas my mother read a poem to us about him that someone had written years ago. It opened up our thoughts and feelings for those of us who have passed on. It is an honor to remember them. I personally don't want my son to be forgotten. Someday my great grandchildren will say......I think my grandma had a brother that died at an early age. That makes me sad. I want to make sure he is remembered.

God Bless You!

Answer 6

i think having a candle light vigil is a great idea. but on the 20th anniversary how about getting family and friends together and make it a celebration of her life. i mean no disrespect so please forgive if i have offended. you loved her and so have others and it could be a way to keep her memory alive for everyone that loved and still love her.

Answer 7

How about doing something with a close friend of yours or with family and friends who knew and loved her. Just go to the place and do something there. My friend took me to a place where my father died so that I would not be affraid to go there anymore. We did art there. We both like art. If you like music then do that. You could sing some songs for her. Like if you know her favorite song. My father's favorite song was played at his memorial service.

Answer 8

you could do a fundraiser to make the train areas better you could light candles and sing favorite songs that you all used to like, you could joke about all the funny things you used to do together, or maybe go somewhere that all your friends used to go to hang out and have fun in memories of that person that died because she is watching over you wanting to see you happy and all so show her that you are thinking of her but in happy ways.

Answer 9

God Bless Your Heart.


Ideas:
Remember went you are doing soming for someone, keep them in mind and not you.

If she was a person than gives; Help someone by giving(visit nursing homes,children's hospital, or fundraiser for a organize)

If she is a person that like having party; Have a party! Tee-shirts( with her picture on it), food and a party favor to give to guest.

Again, God Bless You.

Answer 10

That would be beautiful. But just remember to be safe, it's not good for a woman to be alone in this world. You wouldn't want your children to have to do the same thing for you some day.