What should I wear to my Grandmother's funeral?

Question

My name is Kyle and I'm a 16 year old boy. My Grandmother recently died after her wheelchair broke and she fell out. She had a condition called Hemophelia where her blood doesn't clot, so it didn't take long once she fell. My mom is making me go to her funeral, but the only nice thing I have to wear is a tan linen suit that I got as a gift last summer. Is it appropriate to wear a tan linen suit to a funeral in winter, or should I go out and purchase a new black suit? I don't have much money. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

I've got this one!
Wear the nicest shoes, pants, and shirt you have. The darker the better.
If you can borrow a coat and tie from a friend, do so.
Remove any piercings and cover any tattoos with shirt collars and sleeves.
Comb your hair.

You are there to show love and respect to your Grandmother. Do the best with what you have to work with and you will be fine. No one expects a 16 year old boy to have a suit.

I wouldn't wear the tan linen suit; you will feel out of place amongst the dark tones of funeral wear. Go to a thrift shop and find some shoes, pants, shirt, coat and tie for a few dollars.

If your Mom says to wear the linen suit then wear what she says to wear; she will have a better sense of the people and expectations in attendance at your Grandmother's funeral. Never argue with your Mother!

Remember, do the best you can for your Grandmother and whatever that is, it will be good enough. You will want to know that you did the right thing when you look back on the occasion.

Condolences

Answer 2

i was a funeral director....
and though it is traditional to wear dressier, dark clothing to a funeral....people wear anything from cut-off jeans and t-shirts, to dressy suits to funerals....usually "church clothes" are fine...i think you'd be fine to wear the tan suit, but if you feel self concsious about it then buy a pair of slacks and button up shirt (much cheaper than buying a whole new suit, and you'll probably get more use out of it)...
i promise you that you will see every type of dress, in every color at a funeral
by the way, the trend in the funeral business is moving away from traditional black...you may notice many funeral coaches (hearses) are white and most funeral directors no longer wear black
anyways....the important thing is not how you look, but that you are there to honor your grandmother and support your family

Answer 3

I learn something new everyday. I thought Hemophilia was strictly a male problem, that women only carried the gene, were never afflicted with it.

I am sorry to hear of your loss.

You might want to think about wearing something that your grandmother complimented you on or something that you wore during a nice event with her. Wearing something that gives you warm memories of her will not only help you and be respectful, but will give you an opening if you are feeling uncomfortable talking (lots of people are uncomfortable at funerals). Telling people the story of what you are wearing will share a happy memory with others. My 15 year old daughter wore an Easter dress at her great grandmothers funeral. Everyone understood the cheerful print when she told them about having brunch and how happy her GGM was that day, and remembering being hugged by her great grandmother in that dress.

Whatever you do, do not worry too much about dressing for others, dress for your own experience, it is the one you will think of years down the road.

Answer 4

Go to a Goodwill or Salvation army store, get a black sweater and black pants. Simple or if you want to go all out get a navy or black suit. It is much cheaper there or borrow suit from a friend, and have it dry cleaned, when you return it back.
A tan linen suit would REALLY be out of place at a funeral unless grandma wanted it that way.

Answer 5

Being your young , you can get by without wearing a suit. The tan slacks will look great with a nice long sleeved shirt to match(tan, white, brown, ) Then if you have a nice dark colored jacket. Like Black, Brown, or any dark color. If you have a nice leather pair of shoes, like brown or black. That would be good.
BUT, if your a Pallbearer, you will need a suit, with a dress shirt and a pair of leather shoes to match. Make sure you carry a white handkerchief, to catch the tear drops. Sincere Sympathy to you and yours. ( Avoid bright colors )

Answer 6

Have you considered going to your local consignment store for a new suit? You can find really nice attire for really inexpensive prices. You'll need a dark suit for other occasions in your life so think of it as an investment in yourself.

Also, you can wear a pair of black slacks and a black sweater with a nice coordinating shirt and shoes. If you don't have black, navy will do nicely.

Answer 7

Your mom is making you go out of respect for your grandmother and also you'd probably regret if you didn't go to say "goodbye"

A tan suit should be fine. Ask your mom about the suit if you need extra advice. If she insists it's not quite right, then ask her to help you get what you need. If she's forcing you to go, then she shouldn't force you to buy the clothing either if it's not up to her standards. But, honestly, you should be just fine.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Hemophilia is a horrible condition.

Answer 8

Hello Kyle, sorry about your Grandmother. You can also just wear slacks and a sweater. In the old days people wore black for funerals but now you can wear anything as long as you are clean and well groomed.

Answer 9

As long as you don't look sloppy, any professional color would do. Black, blue, tan, just not red, purple, or gold.
Just make sure your hair is nice and you are well-groomed and your tan linen suit won't be a problem! : )

Answer 10

You could probably get away with the tan suit, but maybe pair it up with a darker color shirt and tie.