I'm 16 yrs. old and I was adopted from Lima, Peru when I was 6 months old. I never knew my mother, much less my father. I don't know anything about her, I don't even have a picture to look at, and my adoptive parents didn't even get to meet her. I feel lost, and I feel that now I'm 16 yrs. old I need to find out more about her. I feel empty, I wanna know who she is, people that aren't adopted doesn't know how it feels to not know the person who gave you "life". I don't feel right asking my adoptive mother/father if I could ever find her, for some reason I feel that I would be hurting them, even though I Love them very much. All I know is her name is Amelia, I don't even know if she could still be alive. Anyways, I want to know if there is any way to confront your parents about finding about my birthmother without making them "sad" or something idk. Is there anything that could help you find your parent(s)???
2006-12-29 11:39:32 · 3 answers · asked by Blah-Blah590 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that Amelia is a lovely name, its natural for you to want to find your birth mother, its your birth right, and you parents knew this would come since the first moment they saw you. They will be okay with this and maybe they will even want to help you. just reassure them that you will love them no matter what, and they know that anyway. Sometimes it even strengthens the bonds with the parents when you search for your birth parents. Its scary too I'm sure, and we all know how it feels to be lost in this world , one way or another. the best advice I can give you is go with your gutt feelings, and you will never go wrong. It is your gutt feeling that you want to find your Mom, and also that you don't want to hurt your parents, let them know that and you will do beautifully. good luck with this.
2006-12-29 11:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Diana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your parents decided to adopt you, they knew already the consequences that may arise in the future. one of it is this thing you talk about.
you dan't have to worry about them. as long as they know how much you love them then shouldn't be worry of making them sad. and i am sure they won't be sad as well. like i said, they knew that one day you going to ask them this question.
my sister have an adopted son. and she knew in the very beginning of the process to get him that one day when he grew up, he would like to know who is his birthparents. and she has prepared for it from the start. i am sure your parent is the same thing.
don't worry...it is your right to do what you think is neccesary in your life. but i suggest you should really think it over because it's a very big thing to do.
good luck...!
2006-12-30 00:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by daniiisme!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They won't be sad. Just tell them how you feel. They'll understand. Don't go around behind their backs, though. That's what would make them sad.
2006-12-29 19:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋