Please help!!!!!!!! I keep running away and my mom doesn't want me?

Question

I keep running away and my mom calls the cops everytime and they keep telling her she needs to go to court to turn me over to the state because the cops are getting fed up wit me running away and they have to keep coming to my house because i keep running away when they could be helping other people I also never talk to my mom and if i keep running away i have three people that said they don't want to be my friend anymore!!! Any Advice

I keep running away because i always argue with my mom. I mean I aruge over using the phone, school projects, other little things!!!!!

I have also been in JUVY and a two mental hospitals. i was in the latest mental hospital for christmas!!!!!

Answer 1

Quit pretending you're grown up.

Do you know everything costs money? Water? Heat? Food?

Focus on your school work, get a good education and then get a good job. That leads to you a decent man and a great life.

Without an education you're doomed to a life on welfare.

Answer 2

Because of my job I see families in your situation every day and help them deal with similar problems. I have a feeling that your mom loves you very much and that you love her, too. That is the most important part! The police are limited in what they can do. They tell your mom to turn you over to the state because they may not have a better answer for her. I hope that you are still attending school regularly, not only for your education, but also because there are people there who can help get your family back on the right track. Please speak to a guidance counselor or social worker at your school or at a community agency in your town as soon as possible. If they are not able to help you directly, at least they can direct you to someone who can.

Answer 3

I don't understand why you're running away. Can you talk to your mom? Or is there another trusted adult you could talk to -- an aunt, grandma, school counselor? Is someone hurting you at home? Where do you go when you run away? Find someone in real life who you can talk to. Or tell us more and we might be able to give you more ideas.

Update: Do you have a counselor? It seems to me that you need to figure out a way to not run away -- other things you can do if you feel your mom isn't fair. Try to understand that your mom wants to help you and keep you safe. Running away is Dangerous. Please take care of yourself.

Answer 4

why do you keep running away? Your mom must love you or she wouldn't call the cops to come bring you back home. Stop acting like a child and grow up you need to talk to your mom and work things out. I'm 28 and did plenty of stupid and selfish things I even ran away. Not only can that be dangerous its very immature. Plus your just running away from your problems your not actually fixing them. Please for your sake talk to your moms. Shes probably been through a whole lot. As kids we forget our parents were young once. They did bad things too.

Answer 5

Trust me, you mom want's you. If she didn't want you, do you think she's put herself through this? Some parents wash their hands of their kids when they act out without any problem, sounds like you're lucky that your mom is standing by you.

You need to talk to someone you can trust about what's going on right now. Therapy wouldn't be a bad option at all either. Something has to be going on, running away is not normal behavior. I know your options aren't good if you keep it up, it's possible for your mom to turn you over to the state or the state to step in themselves. I work in a placement facility for teens now, I've seen it happen myself alot. You need to express whatever it is that's going on in your life.

Answer 6

And my guess is, you like the attention.

You need to grow up and stop wasting people's time. Sorry to be blunt.
There are people out there who are in worse situations than you- no home, no family, no friends...did you ever think that those people who said that you won't be their friend if you do this again are just getting fed up with your behaviour? I think that your mom, the police and your friends should simply ignore it. Chances are that you are doing it all for attention and if you don't get any, you will stop what you are doing.
Instead, your mom needs to praise you for the things that you are doing right, and you need to show more gratitude towards your mother for loving you enough to NOT turn you over to the state.
You need to start communicating with your family, and I suggest that you all go for anger management lessons.

So that's my advice...grow up and be grateful that you have a mom who loves you.

Answer 7

Try and talk to your mom. If that doesn't work, try getting someone involved to be a mediator. You can't keep running away, you'll end up in alot of trouble. It's so dangerous out in the streets. I can't believe your mom doesn't want you, sometimes it's hard for teenage girls and mother's to get along. The only way you can figure out why you are so upset about everything is to talk! Please stop running away, something terrible could happen.

Answer 8

Why are you running away?

You're going to end up in state custody if you keep it up, so you have to ask yourself if it's worth it.

Do yourself a favor: quit freaking out for a second. Have a talk with yourself in the mirror. Actually sit down, and actually talk to yourself. Ask yourself what's going on. What are you trying to accomplish by running away? How's that working out for you? Is there an alternative (mentorship, boarding school, apprenticeship, military) that would be more productive and not end up messing up your future? Remember: your mom might be angry right now, but you're going to live with the consequences of your actions for the rest of your life. Settle on something you can make peace with, so your 30-year-old self doesn't look back and curse you for ruining yourself.

Good luck, and hang in there--

Answer 9

It depends on how old your niece is. If she is 16 or older and can drive you are going to have a hard time keeping her home. I would give her the rules and explain to her that she must follow them in order to be permitted to stay at your residence rather than with her mother. Tough love is necessary I believe, but base it on her actions. If she is clean from drugs, this is a HUGE accomplishment. I agree that she should not be in contact with the boy, but at least she is refraining from drugs, which is paramount in my opinion. She should be rewarded for this. Encourage her to participate in social activities away from this young man (i.e. young group, sports, clubs at school, etc. to keep her occupied and thinking about something else). All young relationships end at some point. If she is having contact with the boy I would make sure that she knows about contraceptives as well, as uncomfortable as that sounds it is necessary to have that talk (it will be worse if she gets pregnant: think Jamie Lynn Spears). I would reward your niece from quitting with the cutting and drugs use, that stuff is hard to quit and positive reinforcement can sometimes do a lot to boost a young girls ego, you know? Good luck to you!!

Answer 10

Well let me tell you some thing miss....running away won't help you,maybe you think your doing yourself a favor and think your independent to be on your own.But your fooling yourself because without a good education UR NOTHING.Men well use the way you want cause you can't do better.You just gonna take whatever comes to you..........well if thats the life you want.

Go ahead you won't hurt your mother just hurting yourself
and surly you will be sorry,trust me

Answer 11

You do understand that you will be put in a foster home if you keep on running away. At the foster home you will have lots less freedom than now. And you will have to stay there untill you are 18. Your friends are telling you to chill and behave and stay home for a reason- to help you!!!