I Fell Lost...?

Question

I'm 16 yrs. old and I was adopted from Lima, Peru when I was 6 months old. I never knew my mother, much less my father. I don't know anything about her, I don't have a picture to look at, and my adoptive parents didn't even get to meet her. I feel lost, I feel that now I'm 16 yrs. old I need to find out more about her. I feel empty, I wanna know who she is, people that aren't adopted doesn't know how it feels too not know the person who gave you "life". I don't feel right asking my adoptive mother/father if I could ever find her, for some reason I feel that I would be hurting them, even though I Love them very much. All I know is her name is Amelia, I don't even know if she could still be alive. Anyways, I want to know if there is any way to confront your parents about finding about my birthmother without making them "sad" or something idk. Is there anything that could help you find your parent(s)???

Answer 1

look i know that you want to find your birth parents but maybe there was a good reason for your adoption. I was adopted also, and growing up I always wondered who they were. Well i asked my mother and she willing helped me find out. But i think it hurt more finding out then not knowing. My birth parents were drug heads with no ambition in life. They gave away the most precious thing in life, a baby.
Sometimes not knowing is better. But if you really feel like you have to know in order to feel whole then just tell you mom that no one could ever take her place but you would just like to know who this person is that gave birth to you. I think she will understand. my mom did.

Good luck

Answer 2

The people who gave you 'life' left you once you were born, and the people you're living with now have offered you their love and home to you all 16 years. And as the previous poster has already said, a couple has their reasons for giving up their child for adoption. They may not be very good reasons, but are reasons nonetheless; how would your biological parents react if you did find them? Be happy with your family, and don't hurt them. Don't do it.