I'm 16 yrs. old and I was adopted from Lima, Peru when I was 6 months old. I never knew my mother, much less my father. I don't anything about her, I don't have a picture to look at, and my adoptive parents didn't even get to meet her. I feel lost, I feel that now I'm 16 yrs. old I need to find out more about her. I feel empty, I wanna know who she is, people that aren't adopted doesn't know how it feels too not know the person who gave you "life". I don't feel right asking my adoptive mother/father if I could ever find her, for some reason I feel that I would be hurting them, even though I Love them very much. All I know is her name is Amelia, I don't even know if she could still be alive. Anyways, I want to know if there is any way to confront your parents about finding about my birthmother without making them "sad" or something idk. Is there anything that could help you find your parent(s)???
2006-12-29 11:37:10 · 3 answers · asked by Blah-Blah590 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is always a tough situation for both children and the parents. I live in the USA, so Records are kept pretty good here. I am not sure how it is where you live. I was not only adopted once, but twice. Once when I was two, and again when I was twelve. In that time I also spent four years in an orphanage. My sister was the one that wanted to find our birth mother. The best way to explain to a parent is to let them know that you love them, but something is missing. Most likely they will not be offended, but will help in any way possible. It took almost seven years for my sister to finally find our birth mother. When she did, we went to visit. It didnt turn out that well at all. I actually grew a resentment towards her. All the things I had been told growing up were not all true. Only you know if you want to find the "missing link". Good luck.
2006-12-29 11:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rick R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till your 18 then do it on your own. Before that just let your adopted parents know that you love them very much and you just need to know for closure. Best of luck!!!
2006-12-29 19:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by olmedaevelyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your parents. I'm sure they will understand and help and support you. Good luck :-))))))))))))
2006-12-29 19:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋