When me and my guy first got together, he KNEW that we have to keep it a secret. My father is ultra conservative and doesn't want me to have a bf. My guy knows this but recently has been begging me to meet his parents and spend the holiday with his family. I want to meet them but I'm afraid that if I meet them they might run into me and my dad one day and say they saw me. Our community is very small and the possibility of my parents and his parents meeting is likely.
I've been rejecting all of my guy's offers to meet his family and I think its driving a wedge between us. I told him upfront how it was going to be if we got together so WHY DOES HE KEEP INSISTING I MEET HIS FAMILY??? Please offer some advice on how to avoid meeting his family without making him mad? THANKS!
2006-12-29 11:16:58 · 8 answers · asked by Lonely Love 06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to add......I'm past the teenage years and am finishing college in a couple of years. I have waited for a very long time to be with someone because I didn't want to keep secrets from my dad. This is the first guy I've decided to be with because he was there in my time of need. I've known him for 3 years.
2006-12-29 12:06:26 · update #1
you can't - you're going to have to grow up and claim ownership over yourself instead of living a lie and letting your father think that he's running your life for you
meeting his parents is obviously very important to him, and why not? it's a big deal to be properly introduced to your boyfriend's parents.
2006-12-29 11:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew having a bf would cause a problem with your parents, you should've waited instead of going behind their backs. Now it's come back to bite you, which is what happens when you lie. Your bf wants you to meet his family because apparently, you mean a lot to him. What you should do is talk to your parents and have them meet your bf first, get to know him and take things from there. Continuing to avoid meeting his parents will only cause grief to both of you, and how long do you think he'll be willing to be kept a deep, dark secret? If you truly care for him, come clean with your parents. If not, break it up so he can go on with his life and meet someone who will be happy to meet his parents and proud to be with him.
2006-12-29 19:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the issue may be to tell his parents about your situation. The issue isn't meeting his parents as much as them saying something to your parents. If they are willing to abide by your issue, then you may be making a bigger issue of it than it is. Or maybe its time that you told your father what is going on. by keeping it a secret you are only confirming his fears. imagine how upset he would be if he saw the two of you?!? Better to come from you than someone else.
2006-12-29 19:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear little, one, how long are you going to hide this matter from your dad. Wouldnt it be nice, if you dad knows, that you are in love. I Parents they dont like childrens to have special friends, coz they are worried it will spoil their childrens education. If you are already working than i think your dad should understand that you have choosed a life partner for yourself, its your life.
I believe you should speak out to your father and ask his personal advise, whether you should meet his parents. I believe you father will give you the best advise and will consider your request.
2006-12-29 19:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain it to him abd tell him why you dont want to. If he doesnt understand he isnt the right guy for you and ditch him. Its not worth you getting a butt kicking because he wanted you to meet his parents
2006-12-29 19:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad the truth and you are gunna have one soon so might as well start now
2006-12-29 19:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Push Play for Jonas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, he's better off with someone who appreciates him and isn't ashamed to be with him.
2006-12-29 19:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Chris from West LA 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do everything you can think of to avoid them because this is not easy at all
2006-12-29 19:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋