My illegal husbad says if I love him I would help him with his papers so he can have a better living and support us better. We are currently living separately, but he tells me constantly to help him get his papers. He treats me nice and tries to show how much he loves me so i don't think he's using me. I constantly hear stories of people in a similar situation only to find out that their partner cheated on them once they got the papers, so that is what scares me and is holding me back. Is it my insecurity, or should I trust him and help him? We're now at this point where he says if I don't help him it shows that I don't care about him and don't want a better life for him, so he will move farther away from me than choose to be with me. What do you think?
2006-12-29 11:09:49 · 24 answers · asked by chia123 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Run girl run....
I wouldn't trust him more than I could throw him (and I am not very big...so I can't throw very far)
If he loves YOU then he would understand and not push until you are ready...
If you are living apart....seems like there is a reason.
2006-12-29 11:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Susan S 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Doesnt matter.
If you file for him, the only form you can file is the form I-130. He is not eligible to adjust his status to a permanent resident in the United States because he entered illegally, which is a status barred from applying for a "green card."
Later, years down the line, he may be able to pay a fine for his wrongdoings, but the fine would be incredibly expensive. He would have to return to his country to wait for the petition to be approved and him to get a visa to enter the US legally. If he stays here illegally, it could jeopordize his eligibility for that visa, even if we have already approved the petition.
Contact USCIS at 1 800 375 9493 for further information
2006-12-30 11:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by UsCiS-ReP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to be he is giving you proof enough that he doesn't love you, but is using you because you are an American. Let him move, but he is really just saying this to you in order to scare and control you. You aren't going to let him do that, are you? Ill bet my last dollar, that he isn't going anywhere. Don't worry!
PS..... You typed husbad, I think that has some meaning. Listen to yourself.
2006-12-29 19:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by xenypoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is something called The Immigration Marriage Fraud Amendment of 1986. Check this out and see if it applies to your case.
If you feel your husband only came here to get citizenship, you need to stand up for yourself and tell him that, he can act like a husband or you can deport him. Call Immigration yourself and forget the paper's for they will deport him.
2006-12-29 22:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by countrydoll 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you choose to make your husband live in a different country? Dont you want to be with him?? You can always choose to live in his country, but i think it is selfish to tell him that you wont help get his papers, unless you are lying about the whole thing! If you loved him you'd want to be with him all the time, either here or there. Chances are he'd never qualify to come legally without your help, and it is increasingly hard for him to come even with it. either help him, move there, or leave him.
2006-12-29 19:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How dare he give you an ultimatum. If he really loved you he wouldn't tell you to do something you don't want or he will move farther away. That doesn't sound like love that sounds like once he gets what he wants everything else doesn't matter. Just to be on the safe side maybe you should talk to a clergyman or someone who will not be bias. Good Luck!!
2006-12-29 19:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by olmedaevelyn 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Let the self centered SOB go. Anyone who gives another person an ultimatum like that is an inmoral person.
2006-12-29 21:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by rdyjoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would let him move far away from me.I cannot think of one person that i know stayed with them after they got their papers.....You are already living separately,is it going to take a brick to your head to understand what this man wants?I don,t mean to sound negitive,but I have seen this sooooooooo many times,they want to marry you to get their papers,and then they are gone....I have a friend that had an illegal husband ,she made him live with her a few years and have a couple of kids first,before he got his papers...Those men come over here and use our women for thi.,I know of several of my friends that have done this....If he really loves you he would be living with you ,no threats of leaving if you didn,t do this and that...trust me these guys can work,they are all working and making money all over the place,hes not in need of money ,he can get a job,hundreds of people hire illegals to work....Besides if you are married he don,t need your help.you did your part when you married him..Hes got a real bad attitude if you ask me...He would have to PROVE hisself to me first.....and sure hes nice,he wants something...
2006-12-29 19:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
listen up young lady, these stories u are hearing about immigrants cheating are true. base on the information u provide, as a psychologist major, he is using you purposely to get his permanent stay and shun you in the end. people can be extremely nice when they need something vital from you and once they get what they want, the door to freedom is widely open . be careful and make a wise decision to protect yourself from future stress and depression.
2006-12-29 19:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by quiethead 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Don't do it... he's illegal... How did he get here in the first place?
Tell him to stand in line and do the proper paper work, then be legal and if he still loves you then. I'm sure he'll contact you.
2006-12-29 19:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by stm248 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋