I am 33. I never had a girlfriend and I am still a virgin. Everyday, I wish I can meet a girl, fall in love and one day get married and have kids and raise a family. I really do. But I am ugly. I feel like there is no hope for me. This bothers me so much. What do I do?
2006-12-29 11:00:34 · 47 answers · asked by NJboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you are being a bit hard on yourself. If your self esteem is that low then women will see it. Be yourself and be outgoing. Someone will love you for who you are, not what you look like. Be positive and stay strong. Go out there and find yourself a woman. If you do not try and find a love then you won't get one. There are many people out there who need love just like you. I wish you luck and if you find a love, many years of happiness.
2006-12-29 11:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me you sound like a decent guy. You would be loyal and respectful. Someday I know you will meet a woman who will love you for who you are on the inside. I don't care how the guy looks. I'm more interested in his personality. To tell the truth, I'm into guys like you, who want a family. You will find that special-someone one day. And being ugly can be a good thing. If a girl likes you, you know it will be for who you are. I send you my best wishes! Don't ever give up on your dreams! Never say never!
2006-12-29 15:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by A Friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying, it doesn't matter how you look, if someone really cared for you.
I've written a book called "It's Not a Dream". This is a non-fiction book about my baby switched at birth when the other mother refuse to take her baby home because she said he was ugly.
I kept her baby and bond with him while my child was with her. I told the media if she didn't want her baby, then I'll take both.
This story went nation wide. This baby grew up to be as handsome as my son. Love yourself for who you are. Someone else might not think you'll ugly and decide to take you too.
visit my website blessedandfavored.com and click on Bridget Merriwether.
You'll enjoy this book!
I encourage all young and old to read this book, it's very inspiring.
2006-12-29 11:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a really low esteem of yourself. There are alot of women out there that are feeling the same way you do.
First you need to start doing things that make you feel better about yourself!! Women are more drawn to men that care about themselves and have confidence in themselves!! Get with a friend and have them help you with a makeover...
Get involved in activities. Start doing things with your friends and family members and STOP being your worst enemy!!
If your self esteem is that low try talking to a counselor or a trusted friend that can help you see what a great guy you really are.
Look at it this way its going to be a new year, so why not a new you and a new attitude!! A woman that really cares about you is going to like you for who you are not just what you look like. Happy Holidays!
2006-12-29 11:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes although its never too late to fall in Love you do have a chance, Try to post a picture of yourself on a dating site example eharmony.com you'll find a girl that likes you for what you look like since that's what your worried about, but what you should be really worried about is how you ACT, and how you are inside, I know this sounds like bull, but its true ask any girl, i know most girls probably would like a hot guy but you can fall in love without ever seeing the person it works, you just need to get lucky
2006-12-29 11:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by theurbsoweit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is.
First of all, ugly is just a story, nothing real about it.
Decide you're not, be a beautiful person, believe in yourself as being one, get advice from close loving friends about how you're doing and what they advise you (as then know you best).
In the end, people who you might have considered to be ugly have done very successfuly just because they did not see it in themselves. Remember, you are beutiful! Nothing to fix, it can start right now as you say it!
2006-12-29 11:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by nbenuzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "ugly" will not stop you from getting a woman. Are YOU setting standards for them too high?
I once knew of this guy who was so ugly when I first met him I felt this shock. But he had a pretty wife who was very sweet and they had 4 beautiful children. He had a confidence about him and he was a happy fellow.
Is it possible you are also judging women by their looks and only want certain types? There are plenty of women out there that would grab you up but you are holding yourself back.
2006-12-29 11:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking that you are ugly b/c to someone else they may think that you are the most beautiful person in the world. Are you really looking for a girlfriend or are you hiding. Face the world and Be happy with who you are.
2006-12-29 11:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a large church. Seriously. Christian girls are always complaining about finding a "good" guy. And they usually don't care that much about looks as long as you have a nice, caring personality. Plus, single guys at church are always getting set up on dates with sisters/nieces/cousins/granddaughters of other church people. You also need to not have super high standards in the looks department and try to find someone you can talk to and enjoy being with...their beauty will surface as you get to know their personality. Good luck!
2006-12-29 11:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so i am only (basically)17...but when i was 13 i was the ugliest gurl in school...i watched what not to wear and cried everytime...i know...big age difference...BUT one of my friends helped me...listen man, go to a macys and ask them to help u look better as far as face products, next go get ur hair done, and go get a pedicure and manicure(for men...men can have them too!)...get back hair and stuff waxed, go to the dentist and ask about getting ur teeth fixed(if they aren't already or there are some problems)...like...nowadays they can just break and reshape ur mouth!!!...u can get ur teeth whitened...some teeth pulled if u need too...then, start shopping for clothing...if u don't know what to wear, u can go into a store and ask...go into a hip store with cool clothing and just tell them that u want to attract women and look and feel better about urself. u can go from there and see what else u need to get done...then if u want u can join a gym, club, and...if u have a job, people will probably really notice the changes...and there will surely be girls who will be glad to date u...and...there are always adds u can put in the newspaper...my mom did that and she met a really great guy..they aren't dating, but they are good friends...and she was in her mid 50s!...don't worry
there is hope
xao:D
2006-12-29 11:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋