Me and my ex have been together for 4 months and he wants to have sex but I don't think thats a good idea cuz its too realy in the realtionship. One he sort of tells me that if i don't give him any then he is going to cheat. So i broke up wit him, but he admits that he have feelings for me still. Should I go back wit him or look for something better
2006-12-29 10:55:58 · 40 answers · asked by The Hottest thing around 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont let any one talk you into or threaten you with something you dont want to do. If your not ready then stick to your guns and dont do it just to please someone else.....do it to please you. If he really cares about you he will respect that you will continue doing what you are doing now....until you think it is time. Tell him the more he threatens and asks the longer it will take. First find out if he cheated before going back with him...because if he did then he is just plain nasty and the next time you dont feel like it will he go find someone else again.............
2006-12-29 12:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say give up on him all together, but I would say that things have to change in order for your relationship to work! And you also have to think about whether or not you will ever be able to fully trust him if you do get back together. Simply because, he's alreadyt hreatening to cheat on you. Will that always stay in the back of your mind and cause you undo stress?! Or do you think you can move on with him and be able to trust him. It's all about how you deal with things. But I would definately have a sit down talk with him before I even got close to getting back together about the way you will and will not allow him to treat you! The way he's acting now is VERY disrespectful!
2006-12-29 11:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look somewhere else. It's normal to want to move the relationship forward, especially after four months. But if you're not ready then he must respect that.
It is disrespectful of him to say that he'll cheat if you don't have sex with him. He is saying it because he's trying to pressure you into having sex, just to keep him.
Why would you want to keep a guy who resorts to threats in order to get you into bed? I say move on and find someone who is better for you.
2006-12-29 11:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by Rich 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, you can't both have the cake and eat it.
He wants to have sex, and you can't continue to keep him and still not have sex, in a way you are cheating because your needs are fulfilled but not his.
You should leave him alone so he could find a better person to share his love with.
2006-12-29 11:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Calculus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do give it to him, he's going to be a cheater. Any guy that threatens to cheat if you don't put out doesn't care about you at all. He's a selfish self-centered horndog. If that's all it takes for him to cheat he'd be cheating throughout your entire relationship.
Respect YOURSELF and definitely don't go back to him. You won't even have to look for something better, better will be looking for you. You go girl!
2006-12-29 11:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by katme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to reject his request for sex. Looks like he is only after sex rather than ensuring that the relationship works. To threatened to cheat because of rejection is not worth your sticking with him. I suggest you move on for something who best understood in making the relationship works versus sex.
2006-12-29 11:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definatly move on to something better, why continue to waste your time? You should be with someone thats wants to be with you, not just for the sex. Dump the zero and get with a hero !
2006-12-29 11:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Steve H. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like manipulation to me.
He wants sex.You say not yet. He says he'll look elsewhere.You say "Goodbye." That didn't work so he pulls the " I still have feelings for you."
What has changed? He obviously had feelings for you (whatever that means) and he wanted sex with you and was going to manipulate you into putting out "or else..."
You get to decide if you choose to get with him, I won't tell you what to do... but I applaud you for speaking your truth and not allowing him to control you.
2006-12-29 11:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God!!!! I'm amazed you're even thinking of getting back 2gether with him. He is so not worth it. Trying to force you to have sex and threating you with cheating??? Go and get a boyfriend who actually loves you and is willing to wait. He is so not worth even the trouble of losing 5 points for posting this question!
2006-12-29 11:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u shuld look 4 sum1 better sum1 dat tells u their gonna cheat on u if u dont do it with them is not worth look 4 sum1 dat will wait until ur ready
2006-12-29 11:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by craazy_chica07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋