he trys to tell me im the only one he comes home to me every night, but girls always call and text him and always tell me stuff they've done with him ive been putting up with that through the hole relationship because i love him and want it to work. but i try not 2 believe everything i hear
2006-12-29 10:55:08 · 27 answers · asked by annonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes, we should not consider the time that you've been together. I may not know exactly how you feel but somehow I can relate to that. If your love for him is really that strong, you can hold on but with that comes acceptance and patience. Accepting the fact that maybe or maybe not there have been some flings around. And you chose to be blinded coz you love him that much. That no matter what happens even if it hurts you that but, you will still consider his lies. On the other hand, try to think if you have wasted time with this guy and you forgot all about yourself. It may seem that you are just holding on coz of pride or because you only see him. It's not easy but slowly, try not think of just him..go out with your friends... Or while you're thinking of him, try to recall or feel if he thinks of you... if he values your worth as well... Don't worry about the three years if you are not happy...if you dont feel the love that you deserve :)
2006-12-29 11:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by maldita_mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when these girls call or text him, does he explain that he is with you currently? If he does, then he's let them know about you and he can't stop them from contacting him. If he doesn't acknowledge you when he replies to them, then something is wrong. not only would that be rude, he would be hiding the truth about his situation. You can complain about his behavior, but until you give him reason to be sorry, he has no motivation to change. IF you do not approve of hearing his exploits with others, then walk away or just leave him. If he cares, then he will stop. Having friends is not a crime and he cannot be expected to make a change unless you let him know that he has trangressed against you. He is not clairvoyant so tell him how you feel when he does things that bother you. Also let him know that you'd prefer that he didn't continue to talk about these other girls.
You may find that if he doesn't take your pleas seriously, that you might suddenly find that he doesn't feel for you like you thought he did. At that point, how in love with him would you be? Be careful though, I'm not saying that you test him, but you need to hold him to standards that you set. Remember that a relationship is give and take.
2006-12-29 19:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believing stores is never good but after 3 years You should have movement towards a wedding date. Keep giving him everything he wants and sue and h You will find him moving on to someone that makes him work to get what he wants. You seem to be trying too hard. Coming home to you is meaningless if he is doing wrong while away. You are old enough to look at the facts and figure out what the real story is. Stop walking in a cloud and get real.
2006-12-29 18:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that you're worrying about this at all means that you don't trust him, and if you don't trust him then it's not going to work out. I mean even if he isn't cheating on you he still shouldn't be getting those text messages from girls and they shouldn't be telling you everything they've done with him, so just dump him, he doesn't deserve you one bit
2006-12-29 19:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by jeannn. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No its not worth it, you've been through this for 3 years? you want another 40 of cheating? Big deal if he comes home to you every night, I think the other women have it better, they only get him for a few hours and dont have to do his laundry, clean for him, cook or put up with his Annoying habits. Time to move on,,,,
2006-12-29 18:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Akida 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and tell him that these text messages are unacceptable in a committed relationship. He can either talk to his girl "friends" and have them stop or you can continue on and allow this to happen for the rest of your relationship. If he can't find anything wrong with it, then you don't want him.
2006-12-29 18:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Hugo V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great! The evidence is poking you in the eye, and you refuse to look. I can see why you're the ideal partner for this guy - an ideal doormat, more like.
The funniest part of this whole story is that you have actually wasted close to three years like this already.
2006-12-29 18:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find what it will take if you want to salvage the relationship. So if him not hanging out with these girls/text messaging/calls etc from them then tell him that if he wants to stay with you then this is where you stand. If he chooses not to do so then you see where his heart lay. Good luck but it doesn't sound all to promising to me.
2006-12-29 19:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you ever talk to him and you know if you believe in love then he will not lie to you. I know I cant lie to ones I love because they are the only things I value. If not for the loved ones why live? Search out and you will find a greater day anew.
2006-12-29 18:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change and he is cheating on you. So either you put up with it and be unhappy when he is not behaving or break up and be happy (the hurt only last a little compared to yrs of misery)
2006-12-29 18:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋