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My bf and I left the relationship to pursue our relationship. We both used to attend the Global Christian Fellowship (GCF). We both felt that it was a cult.
Now I would like us to pursue another religion - Ecism. Just because it calls for celibacy my bf has decided to leave me and go back to the cult GCF. He accuses me of corrupting him because I was the first woman he went with and says that I have made him a sex addict and now wish to control him by withdrawing sexual pleasure.
How can I get him to see sense?

2006-12-29 10:53:43 · 16 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

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I rather suspect that the question of joining or not joining a church has very little to do with the government of God in your sex life. The few people who allow God to govern their lives are very often confused by what they are taught about God. There are so many teachers, few agree on the essential character of God (for example, some fervently believe He instructs people to kill, while others don't - a very basic and serious contradiction)
Possibly if you have allowed a bf to have sex with you, and it was a fulsome experience, it has given him the expectation of expressing his love this way in the future. To suddenly close your legs may seem perfectly holy and right to you but to him it will be like the ultimate brush off. If you wanted a celibate relationship, you shouldn't have opened your legs in the first place. It is a predicament all too common for people sensitive to God but exposed to an era spiritually desensitised by the sexual hysteria created by a hedonistic entertainment industry.
It's a tough world for people who want to follow Christ and be a genuine Christian. I empathise with you.
If you are really serious about pleasing God the best and only way is to let Jesus' words do what they are in existence to do. Few understand this, but His words are all there is at the end of time. This is so, for very good reason. Suggest you try and get yourself and your bf into 'eating' Jesus words, daily.

2006-12-29 11:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by forgetful 2 · 0 1

I understand both of your sides, I think. You have a right to pursue whatever spiritual path you think is best for you, but by choosing a denomination that requires celibacy from its members, your choice obviously affects your boyfriend's life as well. I can understand why this would upset him, especially when he (like you) left his church to pursue a relationship with you, but complaining that you "made him a sex addict" is just a sad attempt to avoid taking responsibility for his own actions.

You have a right to choose what religion you wish, but you've created a conflict of interest for yourself. Joining Ecism (never heard of it myself) will mean breaking off your sexual relationship with your boyfriend. He has a right to be upset, but that doesn't change the fact that it's still your choice. You have a choice to make: your boyfriend or your church.

2006-12-29 19:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you were part of the GCF you should have been celibate *then* as premarital sex is forbidden in Christianity. Doesn't matter which church you attend.

Don't worry about his accusations; a man blaming a woman for his weakness goes back to Adam and Eve.

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2006-12-29 19:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 2 0

Don't most churches see sex as an act that is reserved for marriage? If you and your bf are so religious and think you should be together, then why not get married, or else respect the morality thing?
Religion is obviously important to you both and you have 'chosen' which you want to follow, is it not wrong to pick and choose which bits you want to live?
Personally, having been there and done that, i dropped the whole religion thing and started getting on with my life.
As for your bf accusing you of getting him addicted to sex, if he can't control his sexual feelings then that is his problem not yours.

2006-12-29 19:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by L D 5 · 1 0

Your man is right in the head for running in the opposite direction of you - I would NEVER allow another person to tell me what religion to choose. And thats exactly what youre doing. You said so yourself: "Now I would like us to pursue another religion - Ecism."

Sad part is, your man is so weak minded he is running back to a cult he already escaped....

2006-12-29 19:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 2 0

Sounds like Sexy Kittie and Ecism that calls for celibacy is a weird combination. I don't know about your boyfried going back to GCF, but its great that he left you.

2006-12-29 19:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 2 0

Sounds to me like he has seen sense.

Have you ever considered that religion might be a serious life choice? Not some fashion item you take on and off like a new shirt.

2006-12-29 19:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Drop that zero and get with a hero.

Seriously he sounds like he has "issues" and you're better off not wasting your time trying to get him to "see sense." Move on.

2006-12-29 19:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sass B 4 · 0 0

I'm afraid he might never see sense. These are the kind of walls that religion puts up :(

2006-12-29 18:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by anon4nw 2 · 2 0

Good luck, sounds a little loopy to me. People need to figure out what is right for themselves in this life, and maybe his place is in theGCF. I feel sorry for you and him though. Good luck!

2006-12-29 18:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by churnin 4 · 1 0

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