Do you think that it scares men or makes them feel un-needed in a relationship when they see how independant a single mother is with her child? I have met numerous great guys, but when it comes to the time to have them over and my daughter s around, it almost seems as though it scares them away. I have never brought up them being my daughter's dad. She already has one. What gives?
2006-12-29 10:52:15 · 10 answers · asked by McK's Mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's got nothing to do with your independence.
A guy who sees that you have a kid naturally draws the line from him to your kid (right or wrong, it doesn't matter). There is a lot of responsibility there and I think they understand that you are not in it just for fun. Basically, it's a whole different level when a child is involved. You have to find the right guy who understands and can deal with that.
2006-12-29 10:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that the guys you were dating just were not ready for kids. It's not the sight of an independent mother that scares them away. It might help if you look for a guy who is a bit older, and ready for kids, and a family, or maybe a divorced man who has kids of his own. Good luck, and happy dating.
2006-12-29 10:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that your girls is bad cause we all hope not. It is the child that cares them off. Good that you are a good mom but the extra work involved with the child is just hard to deal with. I want to but you need to do ? for your daughter. You will find one soon enough. My wife had two kids.
2006-12-29 10:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they want some alone time with you or maybe they should get to know your daughter too and that way everyone can do things together and no one will feel left out or stepped over. Mayber you just haven't found the right one yet.
2006-12-29 10:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by blue_eyed_roo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if haven't told them, that u already have a child, and they go to your house and suddenly see u as a mom, it may get people snappy[not just men but women too], because now it goes into their head that they have to be a parent not just a lover[even if u tell them that's not the case]...so next time tell the guys you're a mom early into the conversation, ...
2006-12-29 10:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by dmaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys hope for a family of their own. Perhaps are scared of the fact that the relationship may be more complicated than its worth (nothing against you of course).
2006-12-29 10:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Hugo V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are dealing with immature boys. Find a real man. Mabey one that also has a child. We tend to understand a little better than single playboys.
2006-12-29 10:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by nattibadboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable me be thoroughly uncomplicated with you... something you stated or did scared him away.... Now... that is going on the thought he's no longer married or gay or in a relationship... something you stated or did made you no longer eye-catching to him. i do no longer think of it grow to be the text cloth messages... my lady chum despatched me a text cloth the comparable night as our first date and that i presumed that grow to be so cool that now, 4 years later, we nevertheless text cloth like youngsters. i do no longer even think of it grow to be the cardboard, or any of that different stuff. At this element... any techniques i might have as to WHAT scared him off may well be in simple terms guesses on my section. perhaps he's no longer into little ones... you reported an age hollow, acceptable? perhaps he would not decide directly to enhance a newborn after elevating his very own. regardless of the rationalization is that he's no longer responding to you... perhaps I recommend that he's doing you a want? He could desire to have led you on... he could desire to have pretended to be into you in simple terms so he could desire to get on your knickers... he could desire to have stolen stuff from you homestead. He did no longer do any of those issues... he in simple terms walked away. enable HIM stroll AWAY. Thank him for doing that want for you provided that he could desire to have truly broken your heart by utilising being a jerk to you down the line. look after your self and your youngster... placed your youngster as your first priority and enable the rest fall the place it may desire to. solid success to you... God bless
2016-10-28 16:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by nocera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't want somebody elses seed walking around and neither would you.
2006-12-29 10:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's the kid that scares them away.
2006-12-29 10:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by curlyhurlymo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋