His family does everything for me to scare me off and i at times dont want to deal with it anymore i just want to leave him too.
2006-12-29 10:48:12 · 29 answers · asked by cherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"don't want to deal with it anymore i just want to leave him too"
uhh you pretty much answered it
leave...
2006-12-29 10:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Evermore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, first I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with this.But if you were my girlfriend and my family was treating you badly,I would step in and tell them where they can stick it! which is what your man should be doing.
Look family is important and everyone wants to have a good relationship with their family.But some times they can be over baring and put their nose in where it don't belong.
If he isn't willing to at least stick up for you and try and talk with them about how they treat you and ask them to stop then I would also second guess weather he loves you or not.
If you feel like it isn't going to change and he doesn't have respect enough to stand up for you to them,then yes, grab your things and move on.You will be wasting your time to think he will respect you in anything else either.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 10:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the reason/s why his family dislikes you? Perhaps its the way you speak or could it be your attitude? Find out the reason/s from your boyfriend, if possible. Separately, sounds like you've made up your mind to leave your boyfriend. If the reason is due to his family then I think it is unfair to your boyfriend. He and his family are separate issue altogether. Work out the relationship with his family members. I believe what is missing here could be communications between you and his family members.
2006-12-29 10:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you should move out. You are playing house and not taking responsibility for your actions. If you want this guy to married you why let him have simple of milk if he not going to buy the cow? So his family does everything for you. Why can't you do things for yourself? You are not being that Independence woman that you wish to be if you can't stand on your own two feet. Most likely your boyfriend is a mo ma's boy and that big problem for the future if there is one. He never going to move out on his own cause he will always rely on his family to get him out of jam's. Move out and live on your own.
2006-12-29 11:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend and just can't stand his family, then I would suggest you and he find a way to get a place of your own. I have found mixing more than one family in the same house hardly ever works out. Good luck.
2006-12-29 10:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... do you plan on spending the rest of your life with this person? I think that potential in-laws should be considered when making these choices. If you cannot see yourself married to this man then leave; it is not worth the stress of his family trying to sabotage your relationship. If you are in love with each other and are considering marriage you need to make it clear to him that you cannot live like this. He should be the one that addresses this issue with his family.
2006-12-29 10:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they are people of reasonably good character, (as opposed to criminals, abusers etc).....you might try asking them what you can do to fit in better. Like "Things aren't as good between us as I'd like them to be, so I would really like to know what I can do to make it better...I'd appreciate your suggestions. I want this to work because I really care for (boyfriend's name) and so it's important to me that this works out"..... if they are people of decent character, they will give you some suggestions even if they don't like you...because decent people can't refuse a request like that. If they aren't decent people...be careful that you aren't being blind to whether or not that's rubbed off on your boyfriend.... I'm also concerned that if this family outwardly acts like they hate you...and your boyfriend never stands up for you (you don't say one way or another)..... then I'm concerned that he's not a decent person if he won't ask them to try to be nicer to you
2006-12-29 10:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by lotsaanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all don't leave him. Ask his family why they hate you. I mean if you are what makes him happy then, shouldn't they be happy too. If talking to them doesn't work then, ask you're boyfriend to talk to them. I mean who knows his family better than him?
2006-12-29 10:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should discuss how you feel about how his family recieves you with your boyfriend. Is there any particular reason or event that made them hate you? Are they just way too overprotective of their son/brother/nephew...
2006-12-29 10:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your bf should save your money and get your own place. Or how about living with your family?
2006-12-29 10:51:03 · answer #11 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋