ok see this is what happened, i had went with this boy for about 9 months, but we didn't see eachother enough so, we just kind of grew apart, but see while we were on and off i was talking to his bestfriend which is now my boyfriend of 8 months, yes we love wachother, but i know that in the first 2 or 3 mths or our relationship i still had SOOOO MUCH feelings for, my ex (his bf)but it took a loooong time to get over him, and i love my baby sooo much now, but see all of a sudden last week my bf was with my ex and called me, on my ex's phone, i saved the # but after my bf had left my ex called me back,we talked a little but we could both tell we didnt want to get off the phone but didnt want anything unusual to happen or come out. Ive herd that he's asked about me a couple of times, and yes i was very happy when i got that "special call" but after i think about it i luv my man 2much 2 let wut we have go, but im confused, what are my feelings telling me..awww help pleaseee??!!!
2006-12-29 10:44:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen take this from a males point of first not judging you but that was a bad move to mess with your ex's best friend but what you should do is sit down with both of them i know right now your thinking that's riskie and but think about it if they are really best friends well respect each other and your ex should back away if he's really his best friend the bad thing is they both could live you because they would see that you sort of back stabbed them if there really that close, you also have to think who do you really want to be and try and convience both of them not to be mad at each other and state why you picked the one you picked but before you that what im about to say might sound dumb but it well help make a list and go down and check off the things they do for you and how you benifit from them and how you help them for example
1. does he really care about me
2. was he there through all the good and bad times
3. does he call me and check up on me to see
how im doing or feeling
and even other small things like does he open doors for me, always has a good attitude, out going, easy to talk and etc.
but it all comes down to who do you love and could spend your life with
2006-12-29 11:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love your man you are with now draw a line with your X. Or just chose one and stick with it and do not entertain ideas about the other one. If you are confused and it is torturing you than do what you can to simply your situation by making a decision, a clear cut decision. I have been in a similiar situation and the bottom line is this, there is confusion because you are entertaining the idea and until you draw the line and tell one of them, "Listen, there is nothing left between us and I do not want anymore "special" calls" than your heart strings will continue to get pulled from multiple directions which will ultimately end up hurting you
2006-12-29 10:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your discussion tells me you're too young.
If you can't decide between the two...being both friends btw...
Drop them both. If you think that someday you would marry one of them....you know you can't be "Friends" with the other.
It just doesn't work that way.
Though you care for the current BF, you obviously haven't let go of the what IFs with the Ex. If you want your relationship with your BF to survive...delete that phone # and don't communicated with the ex unless your BF is there. If you do choose to keep a relationship with the Ex, then be courteous to the BF and let him go. Don't play games with other people's feelings. Think if you were in BF's place. What would you feel?
2006-12-29 10:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kalena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have started a relationship with your ex-boyfriend's bestfriend. I am sure there are plenty of other nice boys in the city you live in to date. Don't go back out with your ex and if you are thinking of cheating on the one who is now your bf then don't do it with his bestfriend. If you don't want to be committed then leave. It sounds like you are young and not mature enough to be in love anyway (not a bad thing) so there is no reason to settle down now.
2006-12-29 10:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like any of you three are ready to date. Love is a choice that you make, another word for love is respect and commitment. There is not a one in this triangle that is doing that for anyone but themselves. Honestly, walk away. Take some time to really figure out what you want. To get to the place where you can and want to completely commit; in thoughts and actions. Best of luck.
2006-12-29 10:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by parents2sons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that you current boyfriend wasn't still there? like if they were playing a game to see if you'd 'cheat' on your new bf? think about it. But all in all i'd say go with the one u love the most
2006-12-29 10:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by The King 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont confuse caring about someone you use to know with love. Its sort of an auld lang syne thing. You have memories together and its natural to want to know how they are etc. You may even care about him. But as long as it's just a friend thing and your not being sneaky about it then it shouldnt cause problems.
2006-12-29 10:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do not get back with that dude or do anything all of you will regret! You would single handidly ruin 3 relationships if you make the wrong decision. Stay with your man, you had a chance with the other and it didn't work. Whay would it work now?
2006-12-29 10:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by nattibadboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your man now, and forget about the ex...
2006-12-29 10:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Pilsner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u & his bf both shld know bettr than 2 do dat eny way. tel dem 2 fight & de winnr gets it.
2006-12-29 10:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Him Roy Dull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋