Im almost 19 years old, a freshman in college and I havent gotten into any trouble at all this year, I havent even gone to a single party! I asked my parents if I could drive up to see this guy I go to school with for new years and since he lives a few hours away I asked then whether or not they wanted me to drive home after midnight. Well, I havent actually met this guy in person yet and so at first my parents said I could go but they didnt want me to drive home after but now they won't let me go because they think that I shouldn't go because we havent even met each other yet. They got my hopes up and I have behaved myself. Why don't I deserve to go out on New Years and see this guy? I promised to keep in close contact and they know I won't drink! I did well in school and they have no reason not to trust me! Im so upset... What would you do?
2006-12-29 10:43:21 · 31 answers · asked by sweetbaby0809 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your parents and don't meet up with a stranger alone. If you were with friends it would be a different story. If you want to meet the guy, you should meet in a public space with friends.
2006-12-29 10:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"lifes not fair" "why do my parents not let me do this" Ok, first of all, you dont know this guy... Do you think your parents would want to celebrate the new years thinking that you could be in some ditch on the side of the road because some creepy guy told you that he wanted to spend new years with you? If he goes to your school then wait until school starts back up, and meet in a puplic place. These days you hear all of these horror stories about meeting people online, and the people end up being on the missing persons list later that week.
Like i said... if he is really such a cool guy than he will understand that you cant, and that you can meet up when school starts back up.
And you know what.. the only reason why your parents are saying NO is because they love you ok, remember that.
Also.. this could be the last year that you and them might have a chance to spend new years together, go do something with them.. i am sure they are paying your college tuition, and that they love you and that they care about you, and want to see yo more now that your in college. whatever you end up doing, i wouldnt go to that guys house...
2006-12-29 10:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by eguth23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me you aren't so naive that you think its a good idea to go spend the night with a total stranger. You said you go to school with him, but that you haven't met each other yet. If you're right in the same school, why don't you consider starting out by meeting at the student union building and having lunch, get to know each other a little bit. It just isn't wise to go spend the night with a guy you don't know. If you go he'll probably think that you're up for a good grinding since you have no qualms about spending the night with him. No guy is going to think for a minute that you intend to spend the night with him (a complete stranger) without thinking you're an easy lay. Are girls really this naive? Or maybe you do intend to have a good bang and I'm way off base.
2006-12-29 10:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by katme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moron, don't you get it? This is not about trusting you not to drink and drive! You are proposing to go meet a stranger, hours away from home (and from help, should you need it). If this guy is some sort of creepo dude, by the time anybody finds out you're in trouble, you could be raped, dead and buried. Your parents are being just that - good parents, who are looking out for your safety. Now go and apologise.
2006-12-29 10:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, deja vu! Sounds like my youngest daughter in some aspects! First of all, girls beware! You want to drive hours away alone to go to a party to meet a guy you have never met and stay the night. Let me ask you this: If this was one of your daughters (or friends) would you encourage it?
Say chances are this guy is ok..no harm, no foul...but...on that small or not so small chance he is not what he represents himself to be and he is not ok...and God forbid he does something awful to you, even if you keep in close contact, "a few hours away" is a "life time away" for parents to go rescue their daughter. It stinks, it sucks, we imagine all sorts of horrible things while driving the highway to get to the hospital to see if our daughter was alive or not. Hours seem like days. Just remember..this is just a guy. If he wants to see you, have him come to meet you and your parents house. Then at least you know he respects you and your parents.
2006-12-29 10:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by faith4ricknlisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have never met the guy. How do you know he goes to your school? How do you know he isn't a preditor of some sort?
Second of all, your parents are just looking out for you. Maybe they will allow him to come to your house if there is an extra space. That way you can see this man and they can feel safer.
When I was your age my parents told me no to going to see my ex (who I was dating on again, off again). Instead of fighting with them about it I simply tried a comprimise. Ask if he could come to see you.
Hope it helps
2006-12-29 10:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by earth_angel_589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you they don't trust but this guy, I'm sure they would be happier if this guy visited you, even if he had to sleep on your sofa.
If he respects you at all he wouldn't want you driving alone with all the drunks on the road and in a strange town.
If he wont visit you then he isn't worth it and your parents are only looking out for your safety.
2006-12-29 10:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't actually met this guy, then I can see why your parents might be a little concerned. People don't always represent themselves for who they really are on the Internet or over the phone. For all you know, this guy could be a rapist or murderer. Maybe you should meet him in a public place first.
2006-12-29 10:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you be using your car or your parents? Do you live with your folks? If they have a hold on you for either of these questions, then you need to respect their decision. Otherwise, you know the guy, you're over 18, GO HAVE FUN and come back in the morning.
2006-12-29 10:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by sktchgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that they do not trust you, it is that they do not trust him...a total stranger to you both. You are reading their intentions wrong and if you would stop to think about it you might realize that they have a valid concern. Any chance you can meet this person in the daytime among people in a public setting?? I am sure your parents would not have a problem with that.
2006-12-29 10:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Maurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋