Growing up I always had a roof over my head and food on the table but I think my parents were horrible paretns, and frankly they were. My mother and her long time boyfriend smoked pot in front of my 2 brothers and I but urged us to go to church, make good grades and excell in everything we did. My younger brother is now 15 and wants to move out of the house. I moved out at 18 and my older brother moved out at 17. My younger brother wants to move in wiht my husband and I when he turns 16. I agree that his situation is not as bad as it use to be. My husband I have no room for him in our house and are working full time and going to school. What are we suppose to do in this situation? We have no family in this area either.
2006-12-29 10:40:32 · 6 answers · asked by nodesignerdogs4me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My older brother does not have a "home" he does drugs. So the best thing to do is see if we can wait the situation out I guess.
2006-12-29 10:54:09 · update #1
Congratulations on recognizing what's definitely "bad parenting". It would be tough to even admit you came out of that situation with a sane mind.
If you and your husband can't take your younger brother, talk it over. Perhaps he should move in with other relatives until he reaches 18...even if the closest ones are out of state. I think you know what the true situation is.
2006-12-29 10:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are letting your brother down. Try to make a sacrifice so he can live with you and get a good start in his adult life. That is if he is drug free and agrees to abide by your rules. He would also have to go to school and help out around the house. Have him get a part time job to use to contribute towards his keep. Just explain that it is very hard and you are struggling. He has to do that or find another home. That or maybe help him find another safe place to live. Don't let him stay with your mom, you may be what can really help him at this point in his life.
2006-12-29 19:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your older brother and see if he can taking in the other. If not try for a while with your brother in your house if it works out you can get legal guardianship of him.
2006-12-29 18:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Allyson B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unable to take care of him, you shouldn't feel obligated to do so.
Perhaps he can get a job and become emancipated when he is 16. Then you can offer him as much support as possible without being solely responsible for him.
2006-12-29 18:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
taking in your brother is probably a bad idea it will destory your relationship with your spouse. be there for your brother a home away from home but hopefully he will learn to be a good person through your advice
2006-12-29 19:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM TO GO WITH HIS BROTHER
2006-12-29 18:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋