I've known this guy for over 1year and 3months....yet he don't act as though he cares for me at all.
He rarely communicate with me only when he wants to have sex or if he knows i'm ill. I do love him and care for him alot..but i feel as though he don't even care for me..much less love me!
He never ask me to go out with him not even to the movies....or dinner no where at all. Anytime i suggest we go out, he says that he can get a movie and we can stay in and look at it.
I dont want to waste anymore time with someone who is just using me....it will be difficult to get over him...but i cant be with someone who dont love me after all these years.
please advise me what to do!
2006-12-29 10:32:19 · 26 answers · asked by Playful~Beauty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may be just one of those men who is not a good communicator and who likes to stay in. He may not have a clue as to how you are feeling.
Has he always been like this? If so, then perhaps you need to move on to someone who meets your needs instead of trying to change him.
Tell him how you feel, if he really loves you he will do anything he can to keep you.
Good Luck
Sparky x.
2006-12-29 10:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by bigcitygirl_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a male, I have been in the exact situation.... He does love you however he feels there is something missing. He may have that certain persona he is attracted to and is still looking for it. Only it will eventually be with someone else. Spare yourself the later and much greater pain and move on for the good of you both. I was in a marraige that I felt that way and I tell you, THAT is not living. You both should feel that you really enjoy each others company and would want to compliment each other's personality out in public.
2006-12-29 10:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by twistedmister64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just is a indoor person. Not everyone likes going out and doing things in public or being around alot of people.
But if you have tried to get movies or things at home and he is not interested in anything else other than sex you may need to just talk to him and ask him to be straight with you.
Let him know it is bothering you that he doesnt seem to really want to be in a relationship. See how he reacts and what he says, then go from there... good luck.
2006-12-29 10:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to be in that position I've been there before, not for that long though, Because I refuse to be taken advantage of for that long. You need to leave him for good and never look back, because you are worth being loved. If he doesn't want to take the time to see that then he's not worth being loved by you. Letting go is one of the hardest things to do but it is the better choice. Don't waist any more time on him. Your just his booty call. In the end you will thank yourself. Give yourself time to heal then get out there and find someone who will love you for you. Good luck.
2006-12-29 10:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by kandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not I kind of had this relationship with the man I married (not so bad though) He just didn't like to go out a lot (which is really more of his personality). But, I can tell you this much......he got really serious when I told him I was kind of tired of the whole thing and moving on. The next day he told me that he loved me and we've been HAPPILY married for three years.
2006-12-29 10:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Talk to him about how you're feeling- Maybe he has just been getting the wrong idea of what you wanted. Give him a chance if you really believe that he cares about you, but after talking to him and nothing has changed. Leave him. He isn't going to change and you shouldn't waste your time on someone who isn't addressing your feelings.
2006-12-29 10:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Actually it's Ashley! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry more about the points that you have waisted on this question than the guy in question.........mostly because by the sound of your question, you realise exactly what you should do. You know that he is using you. If you really feel deeply for this moron and just need someone to confirm your thoughts....here you go.........HE IS USING YOU TO FILL IN THE GAPS IN HIS LIFE WHEN HE HAS NOTHING BETTER TO DO. Sorry, it sounds harsh, but I say this only to help....
2006-12-29 10:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mabe he just like's to stay home,instead of go out, If he cair's when you are sick, I feel there is love there, he may not know how to express it,some people are like that. try not haveing sex with him at all, no kind,Just be like noway for awile, or longer, see how he is then. his real feelings will come out trust me.how ever the reaction for how ever long. you will know forshir...If he cheet's or dose you wrong or thretens to leave you. then be like get on boy,but what ever you do don't give in and have sex hell na, Do this and you will know if he love you or not.......
2006-12-29 10:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lea, 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i'm sorry to say but he is just using you for sex, and you know there's tons of guys out there, and this one doesn't deseve to have you so just get over him i mean there's a million fish in the sea, i'm sure you'll find someone else that actually cares for you and is good to you, when you get over this jerk you'll look back and laugh when he begs you to take him back
2006-12-29 10:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by jeannn. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really answered this yourself doesn't call only seen when sex is involved,won't be seen in public with you you my sweet are being well and truely used get rid of him and find a nice boy who won't be ashamed to be seen with you and will show you some attention maybe he is married you never know.
2006-12-29 10:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by flossypants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋