i'm 20, i'm a virgin, and if i had to choose between sex (with anyone), or say, music, i would more than likely choose music.
even just thought of possibly having sex seems dull or pretty boring to me, does anyone else have this problem.
i want to meet someone, and fall in love (hopefully), but i doubt i'll meet a girl with this problem, so it would cause me alot of pain in the process :(
2006-12-29 10:30:58 · 9 answers · asked by Brutal_Yet_Beautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its probably to do with the old saying - What you've never had, you never miss! Like you, I was 20ish before I lost my virginity - and boy did I have fun making up for it. Just with the one person not every Tom, Dick or Harry.
2006-12-29 10:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is gagging for sex all the time, but this is what is usually implied by the media, advertising, social peers, etc. Usually the people that talk about sex the most are the ones that aren't getting any on a regular basis.
Everybody's sex drive is different and it can fluctuate depending on a lot of things, so there's nothing wrong with you.
Sex is great, but so are lots of other things in life, so just enjoy what you enjoy doing, rather than what you think you're supposed to be doing. One day you'll meet someone and hopefully have a fulfilling relationship with as much sex as you both want.
2006-12-29 12:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same bro. If I really wanted to, I could go out to some party, get a girl, and have sex. But that in itself isn't special at all. The relationship is what is meaningful. The sex is just a nice benefit^_^
2006-12-29 10:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Elminster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a low libido and low sperm count ( have it checked ) Try to get into running and weight-lifting and develop some masculine sex appeal. This is important for you mental health. You have to start seeing youself as a sexual sexy man that has much confidence and power over woman. You are the product of a divorce. A mother raised you and you were never taught about masculine manly ways. Its OK, you'll learn. Don't listen to woman when it comes to mens issues.
2006-12-29 10:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Peter W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think that it is that you think it is boring it is just that you are waiting for the right girl and once you meet the right girl and you do that you will love it.
2006-12-29 10:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by princess_bee_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important part of a healthy adult relationship but it is not everything. Not everyone is a complete horn-dog now-a-days.
2006-12-29 10:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Emily B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You doubt you'll meet a girl with this "problem"?
Most girls have much lower libidos than men. I suggest you date girls who are also virgins--most of them won't pressure you at all.
2006-12-29 10:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and remain celibate for as long as you can. I was in a celibate relationship which I feel had lots of meaning, but my boyfriend had no self control and walked out. keep it up
2006-12-29 10:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, almost exactly.
i just... don't care. there are better things in life, as i think of it.
really can't think of anything else to say.
my friend kept warning me, with my boyfriend and stuff, to be careful and sometimes you just want more than just kissing or cuddling, and you forget yourself at times...
but, i dunno, we've never even thought about it. never really wanted anything more, in that area, at least. and what she's warned against... tis never happened.
2006-12-29 10:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by Neko In The Sky With Diamonds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋