I asked his advice on a previous problem & now I have totally fallen for him and I'm talking head over heels. I feel so depressed because I don't think he's interested in me. How do I ask him without putting my foot right in it?
2006-12-29 10:02:43 · 27 answers · asked by jody_joyous_jolly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jump into it quicky, or you may loose this guy to someone else. You'll hate yourself if you do miss your chance with this guy, cause you where to shy. Just approach him and ask him if he would consider dating you. Screw the age difference He should be extremely flattered. I think it's awesome when women are forward! Now Do it! and Good Luck! : )
2006-12-29 10:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by niceguy_thats_me2000 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, you probably don't. Plan now to totally put your foot in it.
(Now you know what it feels like to be a man.)
That said, I guess I don't understand the context here. (Where and how you two know each other and the history...) But, there's no magic bullet for this. You're just going to have to face him and put your feelings out there. He's not going to come around any other way. You might want to tone down the "head over heels" aspect, just to avoid scaring him off with intensity.
But, my first instinct is just pull out all the stops and let the chips fall where they may.
2006-12-29 10:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might view you as too young...not necessarily too young for him but too young to be dating anyone too different than your own age. My recommendation is to wait a couple of years, see other people (don't create any baggage by sleeping with them, etc.), and maintain a friendship with him. If, when you are 24 or 25, say, you still think he would make a good catch for you, then talk to him about it. You could ask him how young/old a woman he's dated and see how he feels about that...just to get an idea. And, at 24, you'll have a more mature head on your shoulders to hear his answers.
2006-12-29 10:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The easiest thing to do would be to keep engaging him in conversation wherever possible- believe me I feel your pain! I think if he is that much older he'll recognise that you keep finding excuses to talk to him- don't ask him out- he should be the one to put himself out there and I'm not being sexist but he is the one with more life experience....Do you work with him? If you do it's the perfect chance to have coffee or lunch with him...If you can easily chat together and get on and have chemistry then it will materialise from there!
2006-12-29 10:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ask without putting your foot right in it...and why would you want to?
It's a single step to take... take it and stop wasting your emotions wondering. Invite him out for coffee or whatever and let it out. Just tell him you're curious and you'd like to find out more about him. Tell him you'd like to try dating him to find out where it goes.
He might feel the same way and he might be holding back for some stupid reason... He might be thinking you'd reject him because he's older... Rejection might seem like a nasty thing to face but missing your chance (and possibly letting him miss his, too) would be far nastier for both of you. See if he'd like to give it a try.
Good luck
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2006-12-29 10:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel depressed because he might not be interested, you don't own the guy and he's free to not fancy you if he doesn't want to. He might be engaged, married, gay or you're simply not his type. Find out if he is available and ask him out to the cinema with you. If he turns you down, move on, there's plenty more fish in the sea.
2006-12-29 10:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks he's too old for you to consider. One thing you learn as you mature, is not to go blurting out great proclamations of affection as soon as you feel good towards someone. He's old enough to have calmed down a little, he'd probably love you to ask if he'd like to go get a cup of coffee, as you have something you'd like his advice on. Can't you get him to help with something round your place, like putting up a shelf? Guys love to feel useful and needed. It would give you a chance to talk, and to take him to lunch to thank him...
'Courtship exists in a variety of attentions, none so obvious as to alarm, nor so subtle as to be over-looked.' I forget who said that, but I love it!
You need to - SLOWLY, SOFTLY - give him TIME to think about the concept that you, young enough to be his daughter, ARE NOT RULING HIM OUT, AND ARE NOT DIS-INTERESTED IN HIM! So calm down, dear, take a deep breath, and rather than hit him with the whole ice-berg, show him a snow-flake.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 10:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show him your interested. Ask him on a date, you have to go out with him and see if you really like him. Sometimes it is not realistic when you fall for someone you have never went on a date with and he might not even like you. We girls tend to love something even more when we can't have it. We love the challenge! Good Luck, hope it works it your favor, remember there is always more fishies in the sea.
2006-12-29 10:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by schell_75 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't make it into a big deal. Just ask him casually if he would like to go for a drink. Then talk to him - get to know him. Take it one step at a time.
2006-12-29 11:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by RichardLeB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And when you are 30 he'll be 46
yuck !!!!
He'll be old and crusty.
You are depressed cos you think an old wrinkly bloke isn't interested, do you feel that bad about yourself that you can't get a young fit lad ??
Get therapy
2006-12-29 10:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋