Well, I can believe one can cheat on someone and regret it and want to be with that one and make things better because there is love even though he/she cheated. I also believe a relationship can survive after a betrail.... and it does take a lot for both parts... i'd like to hear your ideas what can the one that cheated do to make it up and make things better and to build trust back?
2006-12-29 09:49:02 · 23 answers · asked by Aija 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go into personal therapy.
2006-12-29 09:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sweetie but you won't with me. It would take at least 20 years before I could trust you again and I wouldn't live with anyone for 20 years if I didn't trust her.
Move on, find some guy who is willing to share you with the neighborhood, the football team or who ever you prefer spending your time with.
My wife and I don't cheat and it has worked for 35 years. I know, in today's world it is a novel concept.
BTW, you can believe what you want. You can believe the Moon is make of green cheese, that doesn't necessarily make it so...
2006-12-29 10:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it certainly depends on the person who was cheated on. If you're stupid, sure you can think of some way to believe the crappy a s s excuses that the other person has to say. But if your smart, you'll realize that there is NOTHING the other person can do to make up for cheating on you. I really believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater" and why put yourself through that again. Leave the cheating whore and move on. Someone else out there will treat you so much better.
2006-12-29 09:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I tried to make things work after my husband cheated on me. But the pain was far too great. It is the worst betrayal in the world... just the absolute worst. And until you understand how much you truly hurt your partner (note you think it will take both of you to fix the mess YOU created?) then you have a long way to go in repairing this relationship. I hope it works out for you... it didn't for my ex.
2006-12-29 09:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST WILL TAKE A LONG TIME TO REGAIN. What one needs to do is start all over. ask for forgiveness and begin a fresh new start. making sure the one that was cheated on is treated with respect, kindness and lots of love bestowed upon that person. Good luck. I hope all goes well.
2006-12-29 09:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person who was cheated on. Me personally, i feel there is nothing they can do to regain my trust. I instantly see them differently, and easily fall out of love with them. And i also know that even if i did take them back, they wouldn't want to be with me anymore because i would be jealous all the time, and checking up on them, and snooping to make sure they aren't doing anything wrong again. It's a bad situation, and i know i would just leave the relationship. I'm sorry, i know other people probably feel differently, but that is how i feel about it.
2006-12-29 09:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the circumstances and also what the person that has been betrayed consider enough to build the trust back. You have to think sometimes there were other problems before the person cheated.
2006-12-29 09:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by MusicWoman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't think there is life together after one cheats on the other regardless of what you work out amongst yourselves. Because there will ALWAYS be that little thought in the back of your head that reminds you when things get a little rocky, and it is never really forgiven or forgotten.
2006-12-29 09:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by melody g 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spend lots of time together. Talk and share feelings with the other person. Don't revisit the hurtful part constantly, talk about it, get it out, and move on with the relationship.
2006-12-29 09:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by deviatedheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that varies with each person. if you're going to be in a committed closed relationship, then you shouldn't be cheating. if you want to be in a committed open relationship, then find someone who will accommodate you. they're out there... you just have to find them.
2006-12-29 09:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋