he is very obnoxiuos and he has to be with me at all times i just need a break . he won't stay with anyone but me . please help
2006-12-29 09:47:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am an assistant prinicpal with kindergarten on my campus. A lot of little kids haven't been away from parents before, and they really flip out at first. The best thing you can do is drop your kid off, assure him you'll be back later, and then just leave. It is really hard on the parent, but trust me -- after just a few minutes the child gets so involved in the fun, they stop crying. What makes it worse is when the parent stays a while and then keeps hugging the kid and stuff like that. It sounds so mean, but kids really don't cry for hours. Just make sure you tell your son you'll see him in just a little while. The social interaction will be good for him, and the break will be good for you.
2006-12-29 09:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been in a similar problem. I have two boys (ages 3 and 4) and I have been the primary care giver since the oldest was born. I would get little breaks thanks to both grandmas, but they did not like staying with people that were not family. Both boys started Mother's Day Out this August and it was not always easy. There were some rough moments, but here are a few suggestions for you and your son that will help you.
1) If possible, let him check out his new classroom and teacher(s) before he starts.
2) Let him see you excited about his new environment.
3) Let him bring something that helps him feel safe to school with him.
4) He might scream and cry when you get to drop him off, just do not let it upset you. If you feel scared/nervous/etc. then he will feel that and it will make him more upset.
5) Hugs and kisses quickly and then leave. Just go no matter what......and it will be hard! Call the school about 30 minutes after you dropped him off to check in if it makes you feel better.
6) Cry.....you will want to, because he is and it will make you feel better. (I cried in the car after dropping them off the first time!) Just do not let him see you cry. His teachers should know how to handle it. They have a lot of experience dealing with things like this!
7) There will be so much fun going on that soon he will forget about being upset and decide to have fun.
8) Be early to pick him up. This will start to establish trust that mommy will come back for me!
2006-12-29 18:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess you haven't left him much in the past. I would start gradually. Maybe have a sitter come over to your house , so that he is more comfortable, just while you run a couple errends. Try doing this a coulpe times a week, gradually staying away from the house longer. He needs to understand that he is okay with out you, and that you'll be back. He's old enough now to grasp that. Good Luck...
2006-12-29 21:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him he is going to be a big boy and go to school. tell him about all the fun he is going to have. go to the day care with him so that he can meet the the child care specialist and all the kids. take him for a tour. than the day that he starts u go in with him and stay for about 15 minutes and tell him u r going to leave in 15 minutes and every five minutes remind him and tell him how much longer u have left. than leave, he will throw a fit, but u will be strong and he will be okay.
2006-12-29 17:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My brother's 3 year old has the same problem. but today he left his baby somehow... without considering his loud cries. (thou he himself cried after leaving him) but he thinks a stern step should be taken in this regard.... and he plans to reward his baby when he comes back from daycare.
you will have to take this kind of a bold step. after few weeks...u will find urself that your kid is so well-adjusted in the daycare atmosphere... that he will miss it on the weekends.
and yes, ask the daycare teacher for special favor for your angel for first few days.
I believe things will definitely be alright... and u will cherish your bold step. on top of that... your boldness will help your kid to be bold later down his life.
Good luck.
2006-12-29 18:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by ManhattanGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be tough and take him to the daycare. He'll probably cry and cry to start with but the staff will be trained to deal with this and eventually he'll get used to it. If you don't deal with this while he's still young it will just get harder as he gets older. It will be hard on you to leave him at the daycare while his distressed but you've just got to be strong. Good Luck
2006-12-29 18:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who is the parent, you or your son? Just start taking him to day care, yes he will throw a fit at first but he will get used to it after a few days. If you're going to let him have his way everytime he throws a tantrum you're going to have major trouble before he reaches high school.
2006-12-29 18:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is your own fault ,he has got the better of you,
you have to break through this ,just leave him at the day care
he cant cry or perform for ever ,but dont give in as you must have done all the time.
2006-12-29 17:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should have weaned him away from you gradually when he was a little younger,then by now it would of been easier.May be too late by now.Good Luck though.
2006-12-29 17:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by rodfcutler 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just who is in charge? Take him to a day care and leave.
2006-12-29 17:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by 1614 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋