what do i do to move on?

Question

im trying to move on but i dont know how or what to do. i put away all the things he gave to me and deleted him out my phone. i even wrote a list of all his bad qualities. i hate thinking about him, he has another girl now (rebound). we dont talk anymore cuz hes a jerk and tell ppl he dumped me cuz "he got sick of me"--so not true(he got introuble with me and our parents told him not to c each other anymore). i just want him out of my life like he is suppose to be. so what do i do. cuz i really hate not being able to go through a day without thinking about him, or listing to music without thinking about him. idk y i do that cuz i kno he doesnt deserve my feelings. also i kno i should keep myself busy but thats hard. we r on a breakright now and so i hang out with my friends when i can but its not often. but i talk to them everyday but that barly helps. what can i do to stop thinking about him when im alone? btw im in highschool(9th)...and i kno "more guys to come" but i need help now

Answer 1

Take some time for yourself things will work out.

Answer 2

Don't force yourself to move on. Just go with the flow, you'll get over it eventually. And it's true, there are tons of guys more to come for you especially since you're so young. I'm in high school too and I understand what it's like. If you feel up to it, but you don't have to, try getting to see another guy, someone who your parents approve of. Maybe being with another guy you'll slowly start to forget about your other boyfriend. If you're on a "break" right now, then if you really care for him enough to wait for him then wait. However, waiting could mean he'd get a girlfriend too. Just don't force yourself to be happy, because the more you do that the more you bottle your emotions. Just let everything out now, and in due time you'll get better.

Answer 3

I see exactly where you are coming from... i'm a fresh in HS 2... I just recently broke up with a guy because he cheated 1 2many times. I still have feelings for him, and have gone through what you are going through sort of. I finally have started to get over him after I started to go running a lot. I use the running and working out to focus on "changing myself to change my past" thus putting him behind me. It sure doesn't help that I see him nearly every day, but soon I hope I will be able to forget it all.
Maybe if you found something like my working out, you could use it to your advantage.

Answer 4

Keep yourself busy... very busy. Take on a second job (something fun and social like working in a movie theater or a bowling alley), or do volunteer work. Remind yourself that the man who is meant to be with you is out there somewhere looking for you. Don't waste your time concentrating on the past when your future may be just around the corner. Good luck!!

Answer 5

I dont know what to say, I go through the same thing.. i suppose it is important think about what u deserve..it is damn hard I know... I look at my ex BF and think about him each time i see a pizza/pasta shop, a train, an indian guy, an ipod... so many things remind him of me.. and it is soo hard,cos I want him in my life, but have to force myself not to allow him in...cos he will continue to hurt my feelings... so though I love him to pieces, I have to protect myself. For you, well, if he really is worth it I would tell parents to deal with it. I dont know what he did, but u have to be honest with yourself.... is he someone u really really want and does he deserve u... and vice versa.. maybe ur parents have good reason.. sit down and talk to your mum about it.. just be honest with them, without losing temper. parents really do love u, but sometimes esp. when u r a teenager, u dont think they do... but deep down, they want what is best for you, and to protect you... i realise this when im nearly 30 and now that i came out to my dad and explained what is on my mind, everything got so much easier with him. Honestly, just sit down with parents or just one u get on better with, and talk about it...not sure wy they dont like him, but if it also had something to do with u, then make sure u tell parents it was not all his fault!!! Be honest, u can NEVER go wrong and parents will be receptive to you if u calmly talk to them without chucking a tantrum heheheh! Good luck,Ed.

Answer 6

it's hard... i still think of my ex... i think you love him?... or do you not have those feelings anymore...

if u still have feelings 4 him... that'll take a while... but if you don't... look for someone else... don't sit around...

if u still have feelings for him... i know how you feel... it hurts a lot... and they leave a hole in you that you never think you can fill in...

if you don't have feelings 4 him... it will go away in time... you'll soon forget...

but try and send something by answering one of my questions (my email is not working well) if you need to talk k?

best of luck and i hope you have a happy new year!

Answer 7

well we all go through this at some point in our lives and as they say time is the best healer. for some reason us girls always can't get over the men who hurt us and totally dessert us. ask yourself 'is some1 who treated you like **** worth wasting you precious time over'??? try to keep yourself as occupied as possible so you don't have to think about him. i'm sure you'll be looking back and laughing at the jerk. u deserve much better and not some1 who just left you on your own.

Answer 8

i've been there before and trust me it gets hard very hard..... but u just gotta stay strong and when he comes up in your mind think about it and get it over with and then tell your self u are so over him.... even though u may not be like i said u gotta stay strong try going shopping or talking to close friends try a chat line or somethng u dont have to give ur number unless ur interested.

Answer 9

I know it is hard, but time does heal all. Just keep doing what you are doing. When you think about him make yourself think of his bad qualities and eventually it will feel as if "you and him" were a forever ago thing....chin up...it does get better....

Answer 10

look, if u still think about him all the time, u r still in love with him.the more u hate him, u r mad at him, the more u love him. do some yoga, make urself busy.by the time u dont think about him anymore, or u dont tell people how bad is he, or u dont care about him anymore. girl, u then have truly moved on!!!