my ex g/f of 4yr broke up with me 6wks ago wanted to stay friends we meet 10 days after then last week after n/c i called and went to see her and she said it's to hard for her to see me and what will it take me to move on b/c she is
If she has moved on what is the problem seeing me she is not over me what do you think!!!!!!
I don't want to get back together i just care about her alot she is anarexic and dealing with depression
we ended well i moved out of our rented house
no cheating,shouting or bad happened in our relationship she said we where moving apart!!!!!!!
2006-12-29 09:41:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she wants you to move on, that is what you have to do. I had the same problem with an ex having some issues. The best thing for him was that he had to work it out for himself. I let him know that I was there for him if he ever needed me. Thats all you can do. Just be a friend if she needs one. But by what you have said it just seems like she doesn't know what she wants.
2006-12-29 09:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's kind of weird. If she had moved on like she said she had, it wouldn't be hard to see you. She might be saying that to spare your feelings and in a nice way tell you she doesn't want to see you again, even as friends. But some people just can't do the friend thing once they've dated, and she might be like that.
On the flip side, anorexia and depression can really screw with a person. You are probably better off without dealing with that. I am a recovering anorexic and ended a relationship with a great guy while I dealt with it. It's a very overwhelming thing to have to deal with. Maybe she is embarrassed.
2006-12-29 09:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy she did you a favor! Like people said to me sometimes there is no chemistry and she probaly knew that a long time ago and finally got the guts to break it off. Dont make her feel bad about it or regret it. Move on and maybe call her in a month or two to see how she is. at least she did not wait another 4 years or cheat on you.
2006-12-29 09:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being friends, but you have to get to a point where that is all that it would be if the relationship is over. It is very hard to determine when both are over each other and there can just be a friendship. If she cares for you, give her the time that she needs in order to get over the initial break up.
2006-12-29 09:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she broke up with you, you should still try to be friends, but not too good of friends. Make sure she knows that you're moving on too, and that your new partner will probably not like it if you guys are hanging out all the time.
2006-12-29 09:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you care about her you cannot solve her anorexia problem and your help will not cure her. (she needs professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist). You do not have to disappear but do treat her like a friend (no exceptions) and convince her to see a doctor. If she wants to take it to the next level you must be firm and strong (friends behave a certain way). You know what I mean.
2006-12-29 09:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask her why...
NEVER ASSUME!!!!!
assuming is the reason why many huge and terrible mistakes are made....
but ask her... i understand when you have feelings for you ex... so i can put myself in her shoes...
i also know what it's like to still care for your ex the way you do... so i can stick myself in your shoes....
but one thing is for sure... she might want you back... but she wants you to b more than a friend... u need to tell her that u care about her but not like that...
ask her how she's feeling though (between you 2)... that is most important... then go on from there... help her in a way where you both can win... where you can see her and she can see you without being so weird...
good luck sir!!!! Have a happy new year!! :)
2006-12-29 09:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by the sign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep away from her, moved on!! It sounds like she has her own issues.Find someone else!!
2006-12-29 09:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by mamachula01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her and move on. There is no reason she should be in your life. In fact, if you want her to pay attention to you, start treating her like crap. Women love to be treated like crap. They will do anything to please a man that treats them like sh*it.
2006-12-29 09:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋