Myu girlfriend just does;nt seem to come about to say "Yes" anytime the question is raised. She does care for e or she would;nt be hanging around (as she is beautiful, smart and more) with a guy like myself, yet does seem to ignore sayin anyhting when the subject in coversation turns a little serious.
I need to hear a yes from her before she leaves for abroad in a weeks time or there will be nothing left of our relationship as i have to get married or give up on the fact that i ever will.
please advise?
2006-12-29 09:40:24 · 7 answers · asked by Blueice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't force anyone to commit to anything they don't want to. It's called coersion, and it never works. She has to want it herself. If she does not want it, you can't make her. Even if she says yes, she will just be lying to you so that you would leave her alone. You sound very desperate. Find another girl and work on your self esteem.
2006-12-29 09:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude listen to me...U never have to get married. Even if you are a hardcore christian. Just take a deep breath and air it out. I have to go into what 'u' are in her eyes. She doesnt have the view that she should have of u. I know her type; she looks good, smart all of that etc but she has a heart and knows you're what's best for her. I know u feel the same way too. In the first place she is not the type to say it. U have to put her in situations where u can see ur qustion answered and not heard.
The key to keeping any woman is to always be what she is to you which is desirable and confident and wanted. So much so that the other person you are with wont think about leaving you. See she has that over you cause you are here telling me basically how she looks good and that u wont leave her cause she is desirable. She should be posting that question not you.
Now what U need to do is ease off her and act as if you are not that worried about her leaving. Plus its better for you mentally if she is there and you are here worry free. I know its hard. U cant be there with her. The number one cause of divorce is marriage. I have never seen a working one or any that was working the first time around. Imagine if u were married and she was going away. U dont need to be worried sick over someone like that. U cannot make this girl agree to u by words only by action. U have to be subtle and give her space. So I answered ur question but what u need to do to get what u want from her is a whole other thing. Peace and luck dude ;-) (holla if u really need help)
2006-12-29 09:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by TheLoveGuru;-D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is leaving, it is not the best time to try and forge a commitment. You can see how you succeed in maintaining contact. If she were staying the only way I know of forcing a commitment is threat of thumbscrews or the rack—and that is usually not a good basis for a relationship.
2006-12-29 09:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can tell that she doesn't want commitment, your attempts to make her see otherwise will fall flat 99.9% of the time. When we anti-commitment folks say that we're not looking for anything serious, WE MEAN IT. Move on already.
2006-12-29 11:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely she sees your desperation,,quite a turn off actually.people have to want to be with other people and if she doesnt want to talk about it,,she doesnt want to talk about it,,thats it.you may be better served not placing all this pressure on the relationship because if you dont,,,it will be suffocated anyway,,whether or not she says 'yes'.
2006-12-29 09:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always have a relationship without being married...it isn't everything.
2006-12-29 09:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make a woman agree to a commitment.............its something she has to want. Its obvious, she does not want what you want. maybe its time to stop wasting your time.
2006-12-29 09:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋