What to do ? I miss my baby?

Question

I am a 29 yrs old software developer that travel too much for my job and I love my job too much to quit. But I am a single dad and my daughter is 3 months old. I have no relatives so I pay a lot of money to have my bestfriend's wife watching her. The money is not an issue at all; the fact that I am always away from my baby kills me

Answer 1

awww that is really sweet of you i haven't met many guys that miss thier children it is nice to hear that u care for your child and that you truly love her well my husband is always traveling too because he is always involved in business and sometimes he takes us with him but since ur wife isn't here u can maybe take her along with u and have her looked after by caretakers in the place where u visit since money is not a problem for u or u can take a picture of your adorable little child and always remember her like that or u can phone ur best friend and always listen to the cute little laughters and giggles of your child at this stage of their life their is nothing more important then ur child because whne they grow up all u would have left is memories u can always ask ur boss if u can work at only one place for awhile untill ur child grows up. What has happened to all of your family members?

I know u love your job what is more important to? Do you want to only have pictures and memories of your daughter when she grows up. You need to make a decision do you think your career is more important or your little daughter especially when the poor little baby doesn't have amother with her. A baby needs support when their young esPecially when they only have one paren it becomes a little harder. What will happen when ur daughter sarts to call your best friend daddy or his wife mommy. How would that make you feel. Your daughter is your only part of your family and if you leave her alone like that then you are drifting away from your family. Right now to me it seems that your daughter is more important. Your job can wait you will have more job oppurtunities later in your life but your young daughter will soon be grown up and not even need you. It is most important for you to be there for her. Kids don't like it when they are away from their parents. Soon your daughter will be so used to not being with you that she wouldn't care for you and soon may not even know who you are. You should quit your job and take care of her if you truly love her. Well u still need money to live so you should do another job and when ur daughter is older u can go back to ur old job.

Decisions like these are always hard to make in life but u have to remember that life is not always easy. Make the time u spend with her precious and memorable.I suggest u take care of your daughter until she is a little bit older but u should still worl. Find another job. And as for your best friend he is doing a really good favor for you by taking care of your daughter and giving her food and shelter. I am sure u r a great father.

I will ask for God to make your life easier and enjoy yourself. Good Luck!

Happy New Year!

Answer 2

This is when you need to decide what is more important to you, raising your baby or your job, I am sure you make good money but, if your not happy is it worth it? I say get a lower paying job and have time for your child. I myself am a single mom of 4 and they may have had memories of there dad had he been home more, he too traveled with his job, actually he was at work when he died. He loved his kids too although the saddest thing is that his kids really dont remember him because he was always too busy with his job. Keep that in mind...

Answer 3

You're gonna have to make a choice. Job or your relationship with your daughter. You will never be able to get those fundamental years back. Is there a way that your job could let you work at home for two weeks out of the month?

You will need to find a compromise or a new job that will let you commit more time to your little one.

Answer 4

Why can't you pay for childcare and have your baby live with you? It's not easy but lots of single parents have to juggle childcare with working. Most parents have to make some sort of sacrifice, maybe you should do a different job until your daughter is older. However much you love your job, you surely love your daughter more. You will miss out most as your relationship with her will suffer if you continue to have someone else care for her.

Answer 5

Well people obviously don't realize that you need to earn a living. You will always miss your daughter, but just make the time you are with her precious. Keep pictures of her around and call her babysitter to get updates and things on her.

Also, see if there are any openings for something that requires less travel or any way you can travel less. Discuss it with your employer. A lot of times they are willing to work with single parents.

Answer 6

Change jobs, one is work the other responsibility, which would you rather see, a new program, or your childs first steps.
I rasied three kids as a single parent. I was poor and still am and I would not trade money for my childs love.
You do not want to find that you have no idea who your child is because they were rasied by babysitters.
If you are good at your job you can do it from home.
Your heart is already telling you what to do.

Answer 7

Of course you can help it. In life sometimes we need to make tough choices and live with it. I understand that you love your job but at the same time you love your daughter. Your job can be replaced or put on hold for some time but nurturing, caring and giving abundant love to your daughter cannot be replaced or fixed at a later time.

Prioritise and compromise for couple years and then you can resume with your job and lifestyle again. Your daughter will need you at this moment in her life.

Answer 8

spend what time you can with her every minute counts. you can only do what you can. you have to make a living to support her. I was a working single mom it sucks but you have to do what you can. Make the time you do have together important and spend it bonding she is still very young but read to her hold her and just do what comes natural love her and spoil her they are only little once the fact that you are on here asking this ? proves you're a good dad good luck

Answer 9

You are missing out on way too much. You should be with your daughter. It is very important that you bond with your daughter.Why cant you do your work online. I suppose its down to what you love more your job or your daughter.

Answer 10

i don't know that's a hard decision b-cuz that is a decision in between family and work.and i also have a seven month year old and she means the world to me and everyday i go to work i miss her. So i have two decision that probably could help, fist you could either quit your job, second is u could like take days off or schedule days off go see her