Depressed ?????

Question

Ok I really don't know why I am depressed so much, I told my friends about it and everything but infront of other people I try to hide it. I don't like people to think of me as a depressed person but I'm not actually sure what is it I am depressed about but my guess is that Kurt Cobain died ok I know he died in 1994 but It's just that everytime I listen to his songs I feel like I understand him & I know what he means by what he's saying & this depression is really bad that I always feel bad from the inside & I want to get rid of it. What do I do ??

Answer 1

I would suggest talking to a professional, at least for their clinical thoughts on your situation. Each therapist has different approaches so if you feel the one you meet is not helping you, find one that meets your needs.

You may also consider reading books on depression and dealing with depression.

Some people find that medicines can help, which they can in many cases. But you're probably better off in the long run if you can either use them just to turn momentum in the other direction.

Answer 2

Hi,
It's awful when a person you can relate to so strongly dies, whenever it was. I was 19/20 in 1994 and I remember how deeply some of my friends were affected by Cobain's suicide. You need to understand though, that while Kurt was hurting inside he was also severely high on drugs and not thinking right in the least. He left behind a baby daughter who will have to suffer the rest of her life knowing her talented father died this way and wondering why he didn't love her enough to stop himself. This may not be the truth, but it is for sure something that will torment her mind forever.

Perhaps to help you with the pain of depression you can write poetry or music, like Kurt did, or keep a journal to write your deepest thoughts in. Do you have a best friend you trust? Talk about your feelings with him or her. If you are feeling out of control try speaking with your parents, or if that is not an option try a teacher or school counselor. I suffered from depression throughout my teenage years and counseling helped a great deal. So did writing. Kurt was incredibly intelligent and had a great heart and good head about him. These things were destroyed by drugs in a flash. I have no doubt he would have changed his mind had he been sober. He loved his daughter deeply. In relation to him finding solace in illegal drugs, he wound up being a role model to noone. In his attempt to find solace through music, he was a role model to everyone.

I really hope you are feeling better soon. Depression is a tough thing to get out of. Don't let it suck you into its depths. Lay off the music for a little while if you have to, or try to listen to something uplifting. You have a huge asset that far too many others do not have - empathy. You can relate to others. Please talk to a trusted adult if you continue to feel this way. There are many treatments for depression, but only if you make the first step.

All the best!

Answer 3

I believe Kurt was murdered *cough* Courtney*cough* but, don't be so depressed over his death. he was a genius and a successful music artist..His music is still influencing/enjoyed by ppl today. Maybe you should broaden the music you listen to to something more "uplifiting" for you.
I think you should try counseling...trust me it'll help.
Hope you feel better soon!!

Answer 4

I got on effexor for it. I tried a few different anti depressants, and this one doesn't have as bad side effects.

Just talk to your doctor, he/she should know what to prescribe.

Answer 5

well. if you get despressed listening to his songs then you might want to stop listenig to the songs. unless you like the songs. sometimes changing your diet can give you a better attitude too. and exorcising. like when you exorcise enough and you start to notice then you start to feel better about yourself

Answer 6

My uncle comitted suicide from depression. I would seek professional help.

Answer 7

Surround yourself with happy people and take natural supplements.

Other suggestions:

Take a long bubble bath

Read a good book

Send yourself flowers

Go to a bible based church

Answer 8

seek counseling; it's okay to mourn someone. maybe you need some new interests.

Answer 9

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