when we "like" someone for whatever reason ....or someone likes us - why do we ( or they ) now think we owe them ( or they owe us ) something for the "affection" we have allotted them or they us?
You like someone and they wil not look at you and you feel mad or slighted by this indifference.
Have you experienced either sides of this way of people or yourself?
2006-12-29 09:28:00 · 6 answers · asked by On It 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To love someone is not to owe them something, or for them to owe you, but to love and respect each other......the very essence or purity of real love is selflessness, and for one to allow the other to still remain an individual, and know that when they come together there is still a oneness that is so deep it's foundation cannot be shaken. I have never experienced liking someone, and being invisible to them in truth it has happened to me the other way round, but if you like someone and they do not acknowledge you ...you are fighting a loosing battle, and should let it go.
2006-12-29 10:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, most everyone has been on both sides of this by the time they're 18 I'll bet.
I don't know many people who would like to be considered rude, obnoxious, stuckup, b1tchy, stupid, arrogant, self-centered, conceited, self-absorbed, etc. So it's natural, I think in today's societies, to try to be nice and cordial and "owe" the person at the least the common courtesy of an answer. After all, it should be a compliment for someone - regardless of who it is - to acknowledge you as attractive somehow.
Wouldn't you appreciate being told you're a good looking person, or that someone was interested in dating you?
2006-12-29 17:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think 'we owe them' is a bit strong don't you think? The thing is when you have feelings for someone it's much easier to be hurt by that person. You care about what they think. If it was just some stranger you had no attraction for & they slighted you, you'd think what a jerk & move on. But you've projected your feelings on another person so when they slight you, you feel it, it's painful because you allowed them 'in' (in a way) and you perceive it as a rejection.
2006-12-29 17:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i have dat someone whom i love and give evrything i owe yes i have sum rite on him..it dusn mean dat i wont let him breathe or have his space..but yes i wud love to say dat he belongs to me..dude it's not called u owe someone it's more like a belonging try understading d love behind dose words ..dunt u like someone to care about u to give u all d rites and expecting somethings from u..whats so bad about it ??if u reallly feel for someone if u love someone u wont think dis way..having just an affection and love are two differnt things drs nuthing like owing in love relation...and if u not dat much into a relation and dunt feel d similar way other person expects out of u den u shud make it clear to dem..so dat nobody feels bad or hurt..dude personal advice is give more and ask for less in a relation ud be happy throught u wud get evrything before asking..it's an experience
2006-12-29 17:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if I understand your question but...if your talking about how you feel this desperate need for their attention and affection then yes I've experienced this before.
You like someone and they basically ignore you...they could realize that you like them and want to see what you'll do when they give you nothing???
If I understand your question then I have been on both sides of this...
2006-12-29 17:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by surferchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have. But it's only been a problem when a third party is spreading rumors to stir up trouble.
2006-12-29 17:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Chiquita B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋