My boyfriend wants to have sex with me.I kinda want to,but I'm scared. is it panful the first time?if so does it always hurt or just the first time?how much pain is there?is there anything I need to know before I take this big step?and is there anyway to prove that he wants me and not just to get laid?any tips would be appreciated.
2006-12-29 09:20:54 · 16 answers · asked by Kay ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go slow. Literally and figuratively. Give it time until you're sure.
If you're not at least 18, realllllly think hard before deciding to. It's worth the wait.
2006-12-29 09:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't kinda want too,,, you have to "want" too.... and depends on your age.. if you are younge... wait and take your time.. if you are unsure if he just wants to get "laid" then maybe it isn't the right time.... and if he is a true bf.. he will wait a bit longer.. a week.. month or two won't make that much different.. and if he uses the lines.. oh baby I love you.. you can prove to me how much you love me.. or.... I need you so bad... well.. he can wait.. and he has a hand to get himself by... if you do want to... and are going to.. you need to go to the dr or family planning clinic and get birth control... condoms don't always work.... you should be on the pill.. and depending on the pill it could take 1-3 months to kick in.. you don't want a baby do you? The first time should be something that you can remember and be happy about... not with some guy you may have feelings for.... and yes it isn't the best experience the first time.. it does hurt.. espically if he has no idea what he is doing... so take your time.. there is so much more out there that you can do with him besides intercourse. Just remember.. you can still get preggers even if you don't have actual intercourse.. but if he ejaculates near your vagina... just becareful...
2006-12-29 17:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by kAtTs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are sure you could handle a pregnancy and/or STD if it occured, then don't have sex. Be on birth control AND use a condom, but realize there is no 100% foolproof method to prevent either pregnancy or STDs (other than abstinence).
Sex is often uncomfortable or downright painful for the woman for the first time (or maybe first few times). It's different for different women.
And no...you cannot know if he digs you or the idea of having sex with you, until the deed is done. If you have any doubts about his sincerity, don't do it.
2006-12-29 17:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time you have sex, you don't know what to expect-so therefore it can be substandard, since you will be nervous. As you have sex more, you can enjoy it.
There are girls who may not feel much pain, the hymen (that virginal piece of skin) may be long gone if you've used tampons, so it might not hurt that much.
If that skin is there, it may sting alittle. It's not that bad.
As far as the guy wanting you or just sex, that's a tough one. If he respects you and makes you feel special and loved, go ahead and take that chance.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 17:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kay -
Men like the chase.......alot of times once they get you they dump you.
your first time should REALLY be special. I would suggest NOT giving it to a boyfriend, but if you are adamant about it..........
have you been with this boy for more than a year?? Is he a virgin, also? Is he a flirt? Are you the only one for him?? Do you KNOW this stuff??
I dated a guy for 6 months before I had sex with him and he dumped me the next day.........he waited 6 months JUST to have sex with me.
Once you do it you can't take it back. There is NO way to know what he is really after........if he truly cares for you he will wait
and I suggest you do the same thing.
2006-12-29 17:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not know if you're ready than you are not!!! You need to get the facts and go to the free health clinic...every town has one!!! You need to know about pregnancy, birth control, diseases and you how to cope with it mentally!!! If you are not ready to accept the responsibility of sex than you are not ready!!! And please do not listen to any myths regarding sex like...you can't pregnant your first time, he can pull out in time, and things like that! They are all lies!!! So, get educated and be smart about your decision!!
And, to answer your question...it does hurt really bad your first time and you will bleed a little!!! Ask your bf to give you some time to some research about this...and if he can't wait then he does not love you, he wants to get into your pants!!!
2006-12-29 17:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should wait until you are 100% ready. I did it because my boyfriend said he loved me and we had been together for a year... What a mistake. If you have any doubt in your mind, just wait. There are no guarantees in relationships, remember that. Once you give up you virginity you can not take it back. Make sure the person is worth giving it up to.
2006-12-29 17:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by jennamadison2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it hurts the first time. There's going to be a lot of blood too, unless you broke your hymen doing something else. After that first time though, it should feel good.
You should put a towel under your butt, it will soak up most of the mess. My gf hung it on the doorknob to the bathroom, her roomie came back and thought she had murdered me. Maybe you don't want to do that.
also, PLEASE USE PROTECTION. never ever ever even think about doing it without a condom.
2006-12-29 17:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by the way you sound, you probably aren't ready. Why don't you just tell him you don't want to do it because you really don't think it's a good idea. Maybe you guys can make out instead.
2006-12-29 17:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he probably does just want to get laid tell him no and see if he breaks up with you
and yes most of the time its painful but i differs for each person
and if you do go through with it dont forget to use protection
2006-12-29 17:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by icychicmillenium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋