....well this is about me breaking up with my girlfriend with whom I have been with for the past 4 months now, all along we have always been talking about breaking up, due to the fact that we both have realized that we are not compartable even though we love each other alot....below listed is our difference, 1. am 33 and she's 45(she dont relly look it), 2. she has 3 kids; I have none(worst of all she dont wanna have any in the future), 3. I love to go out and have fun she likes to sit home, 4. she very controling, bossy and jealous, am lay back and love to give her the freedom she deserves 5. she loves to nag and complain about stuff, am quit guy(but its a shame, she calls me a punk).....that is just to name few of the things that have been an issue in our relitionship, therefore base upon this, I've deceded to leave this crazy lady; my decision was made lastnight(28th Dec) and trust me it was a very hard and painfull decision for me. so tell me how can I over come this pain& move on?
2006-12-29 09:13:52 · 14 answers · asked by omax747 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I could go on and on about how love is just a trap... and it is painfull because your stuck in it trying to free yourself from it, but all the while your losing your foot in the process... but I won't...
Instead I'm just going to tell you that you will be far better off without her. I'm glad that you're smart enough to know that you're not compatible with her, and that you need to end it. There will be some rough times ahead, believe me. But hey... four months is a LOT less than 10 years that some people waste with someone that they don't even love. My parents wasted more than 20 years on each other!
Good ways to get through this:
Spend a lot of time with your friends
Start exercising more to let out your built up emotions
Write poetry, or just your thoughts out on paper... once they're on paper, it feels a LOT better... like you've let it all go!
Find new hobbies... start doing things you've always wanted to do, but didn't have time for before.
Well that's all I've got. I hope everything turns out well.
2006-12-29 09:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by silvr_chyk_serah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just have faith that you will get through it. And just remind yourself that it's not worth it to be in a relationship with someone you a) have nothing in common with b) do not have the freedom you want and c) seem to have an inability to communate with. There is someone out there for everyone, just keep looking, you can't win the lotto without buying a ticket :D
get out there, date around and find someone you are compatible with, don't move too fast or rush into things, love is a complicated thing and it is worth taking the time to find someone who is right for you!
Good luck!
2006-12-29 09:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by jons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's painful only because you have no one else to go to. If you started dating around and you had multiple girls to go to, you would not be feeling any pain. It seems like your relationship was not even remotely close to a relationship. You have incompatibility at the very basic levels. If I were you, I wouldn't even be her friend. You are not in love with each other. Stop deluding yourself. If you had another girlfriend right now, you would not be feeling any pain. Get over it. Go find another girl, better yet, girls. That's the only way you're going to find a great girl.
2006-12-29 09:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seperation is not always a good thing, and it hurts but u must always move on. it's not even necessarily dating, although that hurts more. i liked this guy and he didn't want to go out b/c of the age difference (him 15, me 18) and i think i may have actually had a chance but i blew it and everyday i regret it and wish i would have done differently and it's hard to get over, but it just takes time, and time and surround urself with loved ones
2006-12-29 09:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥#1 Miley Cyrus Fan♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pain is a good thing my gf of 10 months broke up with me today 29th dec and i am distraught and feel numb lost and confused and as if nothing is important anymore but i know cos it hurts so much what we had was good and i know when i look back on the relationship that i will remember the good things not how it ended
2006-12-29 09:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by nealeyus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds horrible!!! And she sounds like a "mother"! You want to get over her, go visit your mom for a week and it'll be like you're back in the relationship! You are better off without the stress!
2006-12-29 09:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by schwabapoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in pain because you are human. You don't think so now but at least you can love and love truely from what I read. One you are going to find one that was mad for you. It takes time. Time heals. Get your mind off of it. keep busy. you'll see. good luck to you
2006-12-29 09:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by placelace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation is a process, that's why you feel so painful since you put many expectation in the beginning and dont worry, you will get heal soon.
2006-12-29 09:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by dragon_2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask two questions that you also answered. Why is separation painful—it is because youv'e lost someone you love. How do you move on—you move on.
2006-12-29 09:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your mind. go out and have fun...and date. It does get easier. If you know the relationship is doomed, just try not to look back and go on with your life. I know easier said than done, but it does work...chin up and be strong!!!!
2006-12-29 09:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋