First time was just curosity, but curosity made me find flirtatous emails from my boyfriend to another female. Now I cannot stop snooping because I do not trust him. Whenever anything is found (which there have been a few bad flirtatous things) I always confront him, but the trust issues are still there. I do not like the person I have become. I know he loves me and will want to work to rebuild the relationship, but I have heard that from him before and then I find something else. Is there anyway to truly regain trust once it is gone...on both sides for the person who's privacy was taken advantage of and the person who was hurt by what they found.
2006-12-29 09:04:07 · 9 answers · asked by Brainsofop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no babe that relationship is gone down the drain. If he keeps doing these things hes never gonna change. It's time to let go and move on to a healthy relationship. I do the snooping thing too, and I find out a lot of things I didn't really want to know a lot of times. Find someone you can trust and then trust them with your whole heart unless they give you a reason not to without you having to go find it. Good luck.
2006-12-29 09:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by kandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust, there is no relationship. You need to do some trust building counseling. Otherwise if you can't find yourself forgiving him, and moving on, then finding within yourself the ability to trust him, and never bring the email stuff up again. Then you need to break up and move on.
2006-12-29 09:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him. It's hard to rebuild trust unless you BOTH know that you can now trust the other person. I don't see it happening.
Personally, it sounds like your boyfriend is still looking. You aren't "the one" for him. Maybe you should look around too.
2006-12-29 09:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No trust = no relationship. Find a way to regain the trust, if you think he's worthy of it, or move on.
2006-12-29 09:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, you have nothing. Get out of this relationship and get some help for your trust issues before getting into another one.
2006-12-29 09:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been snooping around in the first place. If you choose too snoop around, then you should get hurt. You also shouldn't react to what you read..
2006-12-29 09:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult... but if u try and remember there are things we ALL like to keep private..It doesn't mean your boyfriend doesn't love u...How many times have you been on those seedy chat lines and had cybersex just for fun!..Oops or is that just me! Shhhhhhhh lol..........What i'm trying to say is we all need our secrets be them tiny ones or huge big great dirty ones.....Remember 'big ears hear nothing of themselves'
2006-12-29 09:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Susie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't regain trust, he's a cheater, dump him!
2006-12-29 09:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by ħ Ì Wêår M¥ Mê?ål Må§k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep finding things... DUMP HIM. So what if you snooped... You found it! What more do you need??
2006-12-29 09:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋