I decided to ask my boyfriend why he has been blowing me off lately and he said he just wanted some guy time since we have spent a lot of time together for the last 4 months. I also asked if he was over it and he said no and asked why I am giving him such a hard time. He all of a sudden takes hours to return my calls (he is not busy) or instead of calling back he justs text and is distant. He still says I love you and cuddles with me when I spend the night. But when it comes to making a plan to hang out he won't committ. I am just not sure what is going on. Please give me some explainations! Thanks :)
2006-12-29 08:57:18 · 15 answers · asked by jennamadison2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to clarify he is 30 and I am 25. We are definitely in a relationship and were planning on moving in together at the end of January.
2006-12-29 09:16:11 · update #1
He finally calls me asks me what I want to do for new years. But is short and rude. I am so confused. He also did not make plans with me for tonight or Sat.
2006-12-29 11:44:19 · update #2
He's probably trying to clue you into the fact that you're probably smothering him. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you, but just wants you to back off a bit. Let him have some space and see what happens. If he calls you, everything's fine. If not, then he's not into you and is a lame jerk who can't be honest enough to tell you. Wouldn't you rather have him pursuing you? Do you really want to be the girl who won't leave him alone for 5 seconds? I can't imagine that you do. I know it's frustrating, but be patient. If things are meant to work out, they will.
2006-12-29 09:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go thinking it's another girl, i was going through the same thing not even a year ago. You just feel empty and it makes you distant and maybe kinda quiet. Give him some space or figure out if there's anything you can do, but be prepared that it is something that he will have to get through on his own. Give him some room and like all things in this world it'll pass with time. However that dosen't mean he can always be distant and unresponsive because that dosen't make YOU happy either. Just be there for him when he needs you :>
2006-12-29 09:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by C L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. How do you know that you are his "girlfriend"? Have you been publicly acknowledge as the one? 2. How old are you both?
Sounds like to me that he has something else going on.
Tell him to take all the time that he needs. Stop calling him. Move on to date others. Let him do the calling and making the plans to hang out. If that doesn't happen in a big way then cut it off all together. there are more fish in the sea that will respect you and want to spend time with you.
2006-12-29 09:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Snow Bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of distance is a bad thing. What it seems to me is that he is thinking of calling it quits (unless he already did, and he is being a coward and not telling you). I'm pretty certain this is the situation. He may be ready to hook up with someone else, and is keeping you on the side, in case things don't work out; in that case, he can come back to you for his needs.
This guy is not being very considerate. A red flag I have noticed in guys who are near the end will get impatient and annoyed with a woman over the smallest inquiries.
Be on your guard, something bad is brewing here. A wish you the best of luck in handling this.
2006-12-29 09:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
let me get to the point. whenever a guy says he needs some "space" or "guy time", that means he wants to definately break up with you. I don't mean to sound harsh but that is one of the main signs a guy gives for wanting to break up with their girl. (sometimes i wonder why they "can't just be a man about it, right".
You mentioned that he would cuddle you but doesn't want to go out in public with you. that means he is either hiding something "has another girl" or SOMETHING. don't let him play you a fool!! what i see is that he's totally wasting your time and another potential guy who could definately have you as a beau.
It seems as if you really love him though so...even if is saying he needs "some guy time" ask him whats up. AND don't ever let a guy break up with you!! IF he keeps making that excuse, that means he abviously wants out and probably thinkin about someone else.
Don't beat urself up and don't let him waste ur time.
cutefergie
2006-12-29 09:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just what he said..He wants some time alone and to spend with friends..Sounds like your kinda crowding him up a bit..
Give him some space and he should come back when he's ready..
2006-12-29 09:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by ~ Ruchira~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE OBVIOUSLY JUST WANTS TO SPEND THE NIGHT FOR THE SEX THATS ALL AS FAR AS CALLING YOU DURING THE DAY HE'S CHECKIN OUT HIS DAY TIME GIRLS CAUE WHEN THE SUN GOES DOWN HE KNOWS YOULL TAKE HIM IN, ITS A GAURANTEE ANDD HE DOESNT EVEN HAVE TO SPEND ANY MONEY . C'MON GIRL YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN HIM SO CUT HIM LOOSE AND THERES ALOT OF REAL MEN OUT THERE THAT WOULDNT EVEN HAVE TO BE ASKED THE QUESTIONS THAT YOU ASK THEY WILL JUST BE THERE CAUSE YOU MATTER TO THEM
2006-12-29 09:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by blackd010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him hang out with the guys and let him come to you when it comes to making plans pretty soon he will miss you and want to hang out with you
2006-12-29 09:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he just wants some space for himself and theres nothing wrong with that . we all need some time to our selfs sometimes. just give him some space when he is ready to be his old self again he will let you know. good luck and happy new year.
2006-12-29 09:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a little space, he just needs some time with the guys like he said. you're being rather posessive.
2006-12-29 09:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋