2006-12-29 08:55:29 · 25 answers · asked by Nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're rushing. First, you've only known him 7 months. That's not very long. Second, 18 is very very VERY young. If I married the guys I liked at 18, I'd be SO divorced now. You grow and change a lot between 18 and 25, You will likely be a completely different person. Go to college, enjoy life, settle down later when you know yourself better.
2006-12-29 08:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question isnt are you rushing, because only you know how you feel. But in a realationship, its not just about YOU, its about HIM. You have to take into consideration that you are young, you didnt mention how old your bf was, so I will assume that he is in your generation (17-25).
Are the BOTH of you ready as a couple to settle down and consider marriage and a family at such a young age?
Is he on the same path as you are? Will this relationship effect school and your own personal dreams? Have you evern been outside of a realtionship? Do you know who you really are?
If you can honestly answer these questions and are happy with the answers then you might be ready to settle down. If he cant. Then he might not be.
This is something that you need to talk to you bf about.
No the internet, because the obvious answer looking from the outside in is, no, you are too young, the simple fact that you are looking for reassurance that its ok for you to do this proves that you are immature and seeking approval.
Maybe you are seeking it because you feel like 7 months is a long time and according to standards, you should be moving toward marriage.
Good luck
2006-12-29 09:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't really know someone after seven months. Second of all think about what it means to settle down. Lastly, is he really the one with whom you want to settle? Yes, you are rushing.
Other considerations are: Do you two have the means to settle? Is there a short-term and a life-long plan if you do settle? What are those plans? How will you follow through with your plans? College? Career? Kids? Where to live? The list keeps going; I hope by now you get the picture.
Think about all this. Talk with each other about all this.
2006-12-29 09:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...If You Truly Love Someone Then It's Possible To Know After 7 Months!!
2006-12-29 08:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by ILTCF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your to young and your rushing. My 19 year old daughter has been in love 3 times in the past few years and was going to marry one after 6 months of dating. We kept silent and thank God that it did not work out before we had to speak to her. She is now onto another boyfriend who "may be the one". Other then that she is a fantastic person but you need to experience life, travel, whatever and you probably won't be able to if you get married at 18. Good Luck though.
2006-12-29 09:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 18. You have your whole life to live. I thought I was in love with my boyfriend when I was 18 and it turned out I wasn't . You grow as a person as you get older. Don't be in a rush to settle down. Just enjoy your time with him and if it is meant to happen it will.
2006-12-29 08:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask..then....When you marry some one I think you should be sure with out a doubt. And think about it you've only dated the guy 7 months. you think that amount of time is good enough to build a marriage on? I'm 17 and right now [no matter how much I loved him] I could not see my self marrying my boyfriend(right now). People change....he might not be the one your suppose to end up with. I think if you love him, and you want to get married, you should wait a couple more years and see how it goes.
Good luck on your decision!
2006-12-29 09:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by lakimbria2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your rushing. Ive been with my man for 3 happy years and when we first met, we went out for 6 months then started living together and we are very happy plus i was only 17 when this happened, and believe me i do have fun, im the same old person, just be sure that you guys are going to have everything you need, financially, Dont depend on anyone, believe me, you dont want to get into any problems...
2006-12-29 09:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by lachiquilis1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 and was engaged at 16. I knew that he was the only one for me. We were engaged after 6 months and were to young to get married. But if your BF doesn't want to get married then don't hold it against him. I have been married 8 years. I can't say that it has been easy, but no matter the age marriage is always a challenge. If you both love eachother than go with your heart, but make sure it is true.
2006-12-29 09:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18....! You have a whole life ahead of you to explore and grow. I wouldn't suggest settling down before 30. You still have a lot to learn about life, and develop as a human being. Take your time.
2006-12-29 09:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Snow Bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋