Sorry, I just needed a place to vent, and wanted to know if anyone here is in the same boat as me.
I was so dissapointed this Christmas when I didn't get a ring. I had a little bit of hope that I would get one then since my birthday is also on Christmas day. :(
2006-12-29 08:43:58 · 27 answers · asked by Laura 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Janica, we have had the whole talk and I could give you detailed responces to each of those questions.
We were best friends (not dating) for almost a year and have been "together" over a year. We are in our mid-late 20's.
2006-12-29 08:54:31 · update #1
Sorry you didn't get a ring but I guess for him the time was not right and more than likely there was or is a reason why he did not give you a ring. But be patient and don't give up on him. If he still loves you he just wants the time to be perfect and I am sure when he does give you the ring it will be the right time and place. Just keep telling yourself this and you will feel a lot better.
2006-12-29 08:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This may or may not make you feel any better, but my husband proposed to me twice. The first time was around Christmas, we had been together about 7 months, he gave me this beautiful ring. I was so proud of this ring until it turned my finger green. He had given me a fake ring until the real one came in and he tried to play it off. well, that's not all, not only did he give me a fake ring, about a month later I found out he had returned the real ring he bought me and gave the money to his mother. Finally, another month later he gave me a real ring. I would be patient, maybe he's just saving up to get you the right ring, not a fake one.
2006-12-29 17:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by aimabbs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, sorry for you. But I can give you a bit of more hope. When my husband and I were just pre-talking about marriage, the one thing he told me is that he thought the ring should come on a day of its own, not at Christmas, not at a birthday, because it was special.
So, think about that to ease your mind. I think he was right.
However, don't obsess about this; it won't be healthy, and you don't want to ruin the relationship you have by being naggy.
2006-12-29 21:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its okay. I do not know exactly how you feel but I remember a couple years ago my cousin was waiting and waiting for a ring. She thought he would ask for Thanksgiving, then for her birthday and then for Christmas. But he didn't. Then she was all excited for new years ( they lived in different cities) he was coming to L.A. so they could spend New Years together and she thought he would ask then. But he didn't. So for the new years she was happy but unhappy. Well a couple of months later he finally did ask her and he told her that he knew she was waiting and he did not want to ask when she expected. So he had to wait. He knew from her friends that she was waiting. So he had to keep holding out. According to him he had the ring for a while he was just waiting.
2006-12-29 16:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got asked in september to marry my man. We were together for SIX YEARS!!!!! Be patient. When he is ready, he will ask. I was so unhappy thinking that he would never ask me. We had a baby and all, and he still did not ask. But this past year, HE DID. It was such a surprise. He asked me on HIS birthday. Maybe he is just waiting for a non-holiday day to ask. Some men do not like to ask on holidays. They want a special day of their own. When the time is right, it will happen!~ Good luck to ya
2006-12-29 19:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by *NuBCaKe* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend wanted a ring so bad that she almost ruined her relationship! She'd bring home bridal magazines and sigh in front of her boyfriend, or make comments like, "at my wedding... not that he'd ever ask me!!" When she finally gave up and stopped pressuring him, he gave her a ring. Granted, it took four years of dating, but in his defense, the whole time he was saving money to get her a gorgeous diamond. Be patient. And happy belated birthday.
2006-12-29 17:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are expecting a proposal and to get married, then I would suggest talking to him about it first.
Such as how many children do you want?
Where will you live?
Who will raise them? How will they be raised?
Who will be responsible for paying the bills?
One checking account or two? Savings?
Where will holidays be spent?
What religion will the kids be raised in? What church if any will you attend?
What friends are welcome and when?
Who is responsible for cleaning the house, doing the laundry, taking out the trash, upkeep of the vehicles?
Where do you see yourselves as a couple in 5 years? 10 years? 30 years?
What goals do you have for the future?
and many, many more...
2006-12-29 16:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to consider moving on here.
Well, OK, maybe that's a little severe...but it seems to me that you and your partner are not on the same page. You need to speak up about your desire to move your relationship to the next level.
There's a good chance that everything is good and I little nudge is all it will take. By the same token, you don't want to wait forever for a commitment that is never going to materialize.
Take Care, and Best of Luck, maybe next time we can be helping you with wedding planning questions. :)
2006-12-29 16:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by David G 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Patience. Fiance and I dated for over three years before we got engaged. Give it time and give yourselves time to know each other more and ensure that you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
2006-12-29 18:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get one for Christmas. I got it on New Years Eve. Definitely wasn't expecting it at all.
2006-12-29 16:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by goofy_addict 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋