did not love her anymore but I know she loves me. Because I love my baby boy, I continue to live with her for 4 years. Today, I meet the girl at school. We get to know each other for three months. She likes me, she understands me, she cares for me, she's beautiful,educated, and she never ask for sex. She did not know I have a girlfriend and a kid. I love this new girl so much. I told my girlfriend that I have kissed the girl at school so that she stops loving me. But my girlfriend forgive me. Now, what do I do, help!!!
2006-12-29 08:35:50 · 19 answers · asked by funguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to stop playing with these two gals and make up your mind. You also need to be a dad to your son. If you really want to be with this other gal, you need to be truthful to both of these gals. The gal at school needs to know you have a kid and are living with his momma. Then you need to do something about your situation. If there's no way you can be a husband to the momma of your son, you need to move out, and get your own place. Stop mooching off of the ladies. If the other gal still wants a relationship with you, date her, don't move in with her. Treat her like a lady. She deserves your best. And, even though you've moved on with your life, you still need to pay child support, plus be a dad to your little boy. Don't be a scum bag who bugs out on his kids. Be a stand-up guy who takes care of his responsibilities. That's the most attractive thing a guy can wear. <*)))><
2006-12-29 08:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well move out right now. You're going to be cheating full bore in no time. Why let it get ugly first. If you really love your son, have some integrity and get everything all legal and support him and your baby's momma. Just because you decided you don't love her anymore doesn't mean you no longer have a responsibility toward her while she is raising your child. When you make a baby together you're also making a pretty long committment to the child and the momma.
Wonder how your new girl is going to like having to help support your *ss so you can pay child support and bills. You might want to tell her about your child and see if its a deal breaker. Serve you right if you lose both women.
2006-12-29 08:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by katme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with both women. It's not good to stay together for the child. Your son will grow up learning from you and his mother. Lead the kind of life you want him to have. Show him how you want him to love. You can't force yourself to love his mother. Just be the best parents you can be and try to stay fair and mature so visitations and get togethers go more smoothly. The new girl might not even want someone that has kids. Or she might not want someone that lies to her.
2006-12-29 08:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, people live with each other when they love each other, so move out! As in for your kid, get custody or visit him. You dont expect one day bringing this new girl for 'u-kno-wut' to the house with your baby's mom in the place, are you? Im saying, of course, cause that's pretty much what almost every man thinks.
2006-12-29 08:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a LOSER! Time to man up, little boy. Start taking care of your responsibilities, providing a good example for your son, and getting your act together. You are playing with people's emotions, and that is not cool. You are being dishonest with two women now, making your problems worse, not better. You need to decide what you want, and then have some integrity.
2006-12-29 08:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by FelixtheCat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, I know its hard when you have kids and you want to be with them even though you don't want or love their mom anymore.
Either way you need to be honest with her and yourself and don't let her get strung along.You need to tell her that you don't love her and that you have someone else that you want to get to know.
Just always be there for your baby boy and pay child support and go see him and be a real good dad no matter what.Its hard at first not to be able to be with them everyday but for his sake as well as your own, don't live a lie.
Also,You need to be honest with this new girl.It isn't fair for her not to know what you have in life. And also not fair to your baby boy that you say you love to make it not apparent that he exists and is the biggest part of your life.
2006-12-29 08:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know there is a saying and it goes as is.. the grass is always greener on the other side.. but it's a bunch of crap, of course the other woman seems wonderful.. she doesn't have all of the stress that you have.. If you don't love your girlfriend anymore then you need to be honest with her but don't think that a new woman will change everything for you :) :) :)
2006-12-29 08:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to make her mad so she'll end the relationship, take the high road and just sit down with her and tell her the truth. Tell her that you don't have the feelings for her that you once did and that you want to maintain a good relationship since you share a child but that you would like to move out and begin a new life.
2006-12-29 08:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Wannabeadoc06 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell them both the truth. I know it may seem like a stupid thing to do but its not. Who knows what might happen, but you can never be with this new girl if you don't. And no matter what happens stay involved in your sons life!
Hoping for the best!!!
2006-12-29 08:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kittyintx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god,what kind of men are u?!of course the new girl is beautiful,educated and perfect..couse she is new and u didnt **** her yet...ur girlfriend was exactly like this some years ago right?u are a father,stay home with ur baby,try to educate him well...after this fall in love for every beautifull girl u see...pathetic!!!
2006-12-29 08:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋